If there is no reality beyond what we create ourselves, then how can we avoid blaming ourselves when things go

Question

wrong?

Answer 1

Because in reality, we also interface with others who also create their own. At times there are conflicts due to give and take, misunderstanding, or for other reasons. In some cases, it is our own fault because of misconceptions we have or bcause of a lack of communication. That goes with anyone in relationship with others. It's called a human factor.

Answer 2

Our circumstance is no less a reality than ourselves. When things go wrong it's our fault, but that is not to say that our surroundings made it easy for us. That's why only the effort is something to be proud of.

About reality... There are different levels of it, and different types of it too. The highest level of reality is direct perception. What makes the nerves react. There is no denying that. There are other types of reality. For example, the beliefe that the world will continue after your death. That may feel as something obvious, but, how can you know? There may be a gigantic plot to convince you of such thing, right? The most radical reality is life, every day life. There are more interesting realities, mathematics, science, etc. That's fine, they are more interesting, but they are not more real.
And reality implies there is someone to whom it is real. Things are real as they are real to you. And there is no scaping that because the one thiking about all this is you.

Answer 3

Well your assumption that there is no reality beyond what we create oursleves is wrong. You have no idea who I am or where I am and yet thanks to the computer I am interacting with you. In other words I am not part of the reality you have created for yourself. We do not create reality. It was hee before you were born and will be here when you are gone. The simple answer is that you are responsible when things go wrong.

Answer 4

I don't happen to believe that reality is something we create ourselves.

It's hard to see how your view can lead to anything but solipsism, which is the belief that nothing exists except for one's own thoughts and one's own perceptions. This view makes a needless mystery out of the all of apparent evidence for other minds and other entities.

In other words, if we create reality, why does reality look just like a realm that has existed independently for billions of years before life began?

But for the sake of discussion, let's assume that reality is really just a bunch of mental events in the bundles of mental events that we call our selves.

Would this make us responsible everything that happens to us? Not necessarily. Why? Because we are responsible only for those things that we can control, and we can't always control which thoughts we have.

Yes, we can control some of our thoughts. Our fantasies come to mind. But we can't control all of them.

Stop thinking about a large purple lizard this insant! Did you succeed? If you come from America, chances are, you think like an American.
Can you help that? Suppose your native language is English, and you don't know other languages. Can you help thinking in English?

If you insist on thinking of reality as something created by the mind, it is possible that the experiences that consistute reality differ from other products of the mind (other thoughts and sensations) chiefly by their vividness and by our inability to control them.

If this is so, then we are not responsible for everything that happens to us *even if* reality is nothing more than something that the mind creates.

BTW, the whole EST "I must have wanted everything that happened to me" is patently absurd and extremely destructive--psychologically
--to the poor souls who believe it. You can find antidotes to such thinking by studying philosophy more deeply.

Rainchild

Answer 5

i think the best possible thing we could do when we commit mistakes is that we don't blame oursleves for it rather we accept that we made a mistake and then we move on, there is no point feeling sorry about it because it has been done and we cannot undo it. the thing is we should learn from our mistakes so that in a way it would lead us to progress, to a step forward rather than a step backward or committing the same mistake over and over again.

Answer 6

Rena, there is no avoidance. As humans, we all seek to blame others for our own failures. None of us likes to take the blame for our mistakes. As far as the reality we create, King Soloman said it best, All is vanity.

Answer 7

i believe in the big picture beyond reality surrounding our existence.we have human faults which cause us to self doubt and to blame everyone else, for our falls.but the bottom line is. we all have control of our destiny,s to a certain extent.but without guidance we are all lost.

Answer 8

This arguments gets highly complicated if you go along.... blaming yourself too would only be yet another reality you create yourself!!!

Answer 9

Well, if you want done right, you gotta do your self. And when youz mess up? Hey, that is why youz always want a helper, so youz got some one to blame, kapeesh?

Answer 10

well, there's no free will either. you cannot blame yourself for the choices you make.