To those who have been there....did you feel sad/angry/weird/happy/nonchalant? I know I'm not sad or angry....but it feels kind of odd. I'm kind of happy for them, but it's just.....weird. They've been together just over a year (and yes, they met AFTER the divorce, lol), we've been apart almost 3 years after 12 years together. I just feel kind of off kilter....and at the same time I'm looking for baby gifts, lol.
He always wanted more kids, and she's always been open for more, so I'm not surprised, but I just feel so weird about it.
To those of you who have had a long time spouse or partner with whom you have a child get another person (even another spouse) pregnant, how did you feel about it? Is it normal to feel somewhere between happy and weird???
What I feel more than anything is hope that he is better to her after the baby is born than he was to me after our child was born. He is 10 yrs older and I hope he is wiser, lol.
2007-09-01 18:18:28 · 8 answers · asked by navy_brat913 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And thanks to those with positive answers:) This woman had nothing to do with our divorce, and deserves none of my scorn. Any issues between he and I are between he and I, and almost 3 yrs later it's mostly resolved. All of us get along fairly well, so it's all good. I like her kids a LOT, send them xmas and birthday presents, and she treats my son no differently than her own, so maybe a child related to her kids and mine will only be a blessing which brings us all closer together. You never know:)
2007-09-01 18:34:00 · update #1
ex's and new wifes can get a long if there both willing too.. i got along great with my hubbys ex.. she even had me bowl on her team. so you can do it.. and sounds like you have.. and thats great.. because when you blend 2 familys together it can be tough as you make it or easy as you make it.. it should be all about the kids. and how they are doing and coping all together. it sure makes life easier when everyone gets along.. good luck
2007-09-01 18:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is sweet of you to be happy for them and I too hope that he is better after the baby is born. I was happy after my ex got married and had a baby, but mostly because it stopped him from beggin me to come back. LOL
2007-09-02 01:24:10 · answer #2 · answered by Holly K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a nice person and after you get used to the idea you will be fine. I would feel weird too at first.
2007-09-02 01:54:13 · answer #3 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I understand that it feels strange with you. He's been with you for awhile and you're not used to him being with someone else. Then again, it feels great that you don't have to deal with him anymore and the burden is with the new wife.
As long as you're in good terms with him, then great, you can move on!
2007-09-02 01:24:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't feel anything if my ex had a child with his girlfriend. He is my ex and I don't have "emotions" about him. He is no longer a part of my life.
2007-09-02 01:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't really ans u..
but i can understand what u are saying,
i just wanted to write to say.
. for a ex u didn't write anything nasty.. and i am so glad... how refreshing
i am glad u can be happy for him and his wife..
good luck .. to u..
i can't believe she is not jealous of u...????
2007-09-02 01:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get on with your life that part of your life is over. As ling as he loves all his children. let him livehis own life. Your not apart of it anymore, and what ever he does is none of your business
2007-09-02 01:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have a good commendable outlook.
2007-09-02 04:06:32 · answer #8 · answered by reinformer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋