Is it ok to be married and have a boyfriend at the same time?

Question

i am legally married and am getting a divorce. I have a boyfriend.

we are living in separate houses with separate lives. we are legally still legally married though. The papers have been drawn up, but not filed. No money!

Answer 1

I think it's OK to be married & have a boyfriend at the same time - even if you don't intend getting a divorce.

I've been the boyfriend of more than one married woman in my day, thus far. I encourage the practice.

It works out cheaper for the guy this way. One does not have to spend as much time & money wining & dining - because the relationship is of a more clandestine nature.

Go for it!

Answer 2

Only you can reach into your heart and know if it feels right.

Everyone is different -- when I was going through my divorce, we lived in separate rooms under the same roof and I wouldn't have felt comfortable being in another relationship. Too complicated -- just wanted to get out of one mess before establishing another.

However, as I said above everyone is different. Perhaps, it can happen that you married the wrong person and then met your true soul-mate. It's okay to be happy.

The problems arise when one is sneaking around behind the partner's back. I personally believe in the laws of karma and what goes around / comes around. So, for the sake of following the unwritten laws of the Universe, I would feel uncomfortable doing that but -- again -- that's just me.

Everyone is different -- do what feels right in your heart. Try to avoid hurting others at all cost -- no matter how much they have hurt you. Be honest and kind and it will come back to you ten-fold.

Answer 3

If you are "getting a divorce", just bored with your marriage, found someone to give you attention so you're playing around on your husband, then no. If papers have been filed, you are seprated, living in separate residences, taking care of yourself, and taking the necessary steps toward being single again, then yes. There's so much information that only you know. ...I wonder though bc you are having to ask strangers, so apparently you are having some sort of doubts about the decision.

Answer 4

Well so long as your being 100% up-front and honest with me , I'd say as long the divorce paper's are filed and your not giving your husband sex , taking his money , expecting him to support you financially and emotionally or sleeping in his bed or house and you live as a seperated leading to divorce couple while sleeping with another man who is also not married or committed to his wife/partner .

Its ok by me.

But if your cheating then you know it's wrong and you will be bit in the huge behind when you least expect it hey.

Answer 5

Since your getting a divorce and your split up, i would say it's ok, but you have to be very careful with this, because if your divorce gets ugly, he could say that you commited adultery since your technically legally married still.

Answer 6

I'm gonna go with no, because youare still legally married, so wait until your divorce is final to start dateing and have a boyfriend.

Answer 7

Sometimes divorces take awhile. It's not that uncommon for people to separate and see other people while their waiting for the legalities.

Answer 8

It's not okay. You should remember that it's still adultery if you are legally married and have a lover. Come on, you should know that.. Wait till your divorce is final and then get it on!

Answer 9

As long as you are legally seperated and you cut off everything with your ex, then yes it is okay. As long as you are not trying to draw the marriage/divorce out for a long time and you are really getting one.

Answer 10

If the divorce is already in progress then I don't see a problem. If you are planning a divorce in the future, but haven't filed yet, then it is wrong.