I have 2 grown sons, 21 and 28. I need to know if I am the only one that feels this way, or if I am wrong in my thinking. My "baby" the 21 yr old, "hangs around" with a mexican girl 23, WHO HAS 3 KIDS already, and is divorced. I make no qualms about saying what's on my mind, and that is that I DON'T want him getting involved with her! He makes good money, and the LAST thing I want for him is to tie himself down to her and her kids, and having to hand her money to support someone elses mistakes. What do you think?
2007-09-01 15:55:10 · 10 answers · asked by charks love 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Jess, you are right ....to a point, however, these kids of hers will NEVER be my grandchildren, wrong or right, that's the way I feel, and they would NOT be welcomed in my house.
2007-09-01 16:20:01 · update #1
As much as we love them and want to protect them, they need to learn from their own mistakes, I am sure if she is all that bad, her true colors will show and he will catch on, hopefully sooner than later, but truly the last thing he needs is you telling him what to do, they tend to stop listening after a while and then things turn out just the way you don't want them too. Give him some space and I am sure he will figure it out for himself. My daughter is 21 and she sometimes worries me with this guy she is seeing, but I try not to bother her about it because it only makes her angry with me and I don't like arguing with my daughter, it's just not how I handle things and it seems to work the best that way, at least she listens and we talk and that's when I bring up any concerns, she tells me everything, well at least what she wants me to know and that is ok, she is a smart girl and I trust her to make the right decisions. I am sure your son will too! Good luck
2007-09-01 16:13:49 · answer #1 · answered by robink71668 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. it depends. If they're just dating for sexual crap or because everyone else is dating, it's stupid. But if they're actually mature and truly WANT to get to know the person and be with them, that's fine. But I honestly don't think 14-15 year old guys are mature enough or ready for a good relationship. Some of them are. I was 14, almost 15 when I went out with my first boyfriend and he was 16. This doesn't make me a ho, I was just more mature than guys my age and I actually LIKED the guy I dated and wanted to get to know him.
2016-05-19 00:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all told my brother to stay away from his wife when he met her. She has 6 kids. From 5 different men. She is 31. Has no job, and has lost custod of all but 2 of her children.... but he did not listen. He married her.
It is a motherly thing I think. My kids are very little, but I am sure I will know the feeling eventually.
2007-09-01 16:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way. My boys are 19 and 27 and they are both stressing me so much lately with their bad dicisions. But they are going to do what they want.
2007-09-01 16:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by Lavender 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm the mom of six, and each of my children have brought home people who I'm not thrilled to see them with. The truth of the matter is, the more you get on their backs--the more they will do what you don't want them to do.
Try to grin and bear it, and hopefully, it will end soon. Good luck :)
2007-09-01 16:01:01 · answer #5 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of five kids and I think you should love him and support him, but don't try to run his life. It's his life and he will learn sometimes by making mistakes.
2007-09-01 15:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by Flaming Tresses aka Walkingbymoonlight 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
There's not much you can do. You've made your opinion known and all you can do is love him and stand by. However, if he does marry her, "someone else's mistakes" become your grandkids, so you better rethink your attitude towards them. They are, after all, the innocents in all this.
2007-09-01 16:09:22 · answer #7 · answered by Jess 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a mother of 2 boys myself and I think as long as he is happy why do you care. If you fight you will just push him further away.
2007-09-01 15:58:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sorry but I would feel the way.
2007-09-01 15:58:41 · answer #9 · answered by tired mom 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let him make his own mistakes.
2007-09-01 16:04:33 · answer #10 · answered by jasmin2236 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋