My last question LOL. I know it is the same act but there seems to be a difference......
2007-09-01 15:18:07 · 33 answers · asked by Street Wise 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess some would say that "making love" takes time and is planned and might include a set mood and foreplay and slowness. Whereas "sex" is just, "Lets do it". I really don't think the term has a whole lot to do with love itself b/c people in love still do the spontaneous, "Lets do it."
2007-09-09 08:15:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex or making love?
Actually, the difference between the two concepts is bigger than some of us would like it
to be. And, as almost every time, women feel it the most. What is the difference? Well,
love. Women need to be protected, looked after and loved as much in bed as in every day
life.
Keep in mind that this is not just a legend used by women to manipulate men. The
difference between having sex and making love, together with it's implications in a
couple's sex life is what many men forget when sharing the bed-sheets with a woman.
Clearly, everything written so far will not apply to one-night-stands. In those cases it is
all about a sexual intercourse between two people who only share their bodies. After the
bottom line has been drawn, most men feel good about themselves after a one-night-
stand, without thinking about their sexual performance. Totally pleasing a woman from
the very first time is no easy job as the only mystery she had disclosed is her body.
Yet, most men are attracted to one-night-stands or, with other words, to having sex. The
lack of commitment needed and the easy attaining of the main goal: feeling good, are just
two reasons pleading in favor of having sex.
On the other hand there is so much more between a man and a woman making love.
There are feelings and emotions, leading to a totally different connection between the two
of them. More than that, for women, one of the most important things during sex is the
environment. And this means everything from location to those few candles some like to
place around the bed.
Let's take them in turn a little bit. If you want to leave her smiling and begging for a
cigarette and some more there are some things you might like to take into consideration.
Trying dad's old car's rear suspension will make the car happier than her. The ideal
location would certainly be a bed in a nice and cozy room with nothing interfering with
the moment. Someone knocking on the door or even a ringing phone can have very
undesirable effects. Some candle-like lights and easy-listening music in the background
adds even more to the overall foreplay.
Explore every inch of her body and draw imaginary contours with your fingers and
tongue, kiss her neck, breasts, belly and legs, all in a specific order surrounding the most
important area and closing in at the same time. All this will increase the tension and when
that moment comes both you and her will feel the difference.
Communication is essential for great results. Men must pay attention to the unspoken
signs every woman gives them. Ignoring these signs will make women feel used. The old
legend that says that when a woman says "no" she actually means "yes" is nothing more
than a poor excuse so keep your ears open for her desires.
If all goes well, you might be given the supreme sexual command and that's "don't stop!"
When you hear that, whatever you do, DON'T STOP!
2007-09-09 15:22:03 · answer #2 · answered by P B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people probably use te term "make love" as a euphemism for "have sex" and some of the other more base and more exciting terms. I have always considered making love to be something that goes beyond mere sexual contact because the key word here is love.
Having sex satisfies the body and sometimes the ego.Making love satisfies the entire being. When it is just having sex the quality of the sex having is paramount. When two people make love it is the total experience that matters.
2007-09-01 16:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. I have made love to my husband and had sex with him. Making love can be used to describe the tender and emotionally expressive sex we have. Having sex or f*cking can be used to describe the lusty sex we have.
The thing is, in a committed relationship between loving partners, when you decide to have the wild monkey type sex, the love is there, under the surface. Its just not the foremost thing in your mind at the moment.
After reading the other comments, I want to add that good sex always includes some form of foreplay. It doesn't matter is its about lust or love, you need some type of foreplay to make it physically satisfying for most women and men.
2007-09-01 15:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
anybody can have sex. It takes a special relationship and alot of passion for one another to " Make Love" . Like i told my children. sex can be nasty but the act of love between a man and a woman is a beautiful thing and only experienced with love.
2007-09-05 17:19:23 · answer #5 · answered by seymoretowns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. When i first married we made love all the time, it's been 19 years and our sex life is just hard core sex. Its amazing. Leave making love for the newbies. I love the fact that we have improved over the years......
2007-09-08 16:15:23 · answer #6 · answered by tnjhrn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There sure is a difference. I been married for eleven years and hear it all the time. You didn't make love to me that was just sex. You have to allow plenty of time in four play to be called making love.
2007-09-01 15:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by Donny K 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is, well I think so. Sometimes when my partner and I have sex it's just sex... like horny sex. But other times there is a chemical connection and it's just different in the way we are more touchy and feelie. And the way our body language is.
2007-09-09 14:20:12 · answer #8 · answered by Chicka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me making love is being with someone that you love, and enjoying their company with basic cuddling to being intimate. Having sex is meeting some one , and having sex, with no intimacy, just the act of sexual contact.
2007-09-09 00:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex has nothing to do with love. It's driven by lust. Making love is more intimate and more meaningful for people in a strong relationship.
2007-09-07 15:17:35 · answer #10 · answered by lacrosselover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋