2007-09-01 15:03:42 · 20 answers · asked by maerk c 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I don't think you necessarily have to get married. Don't get married unless you are ready because it will eventually effect the child in a negative way. You do need to be prepared to be the best father you can even if you decide not to get married. Next time don't have unprotected sex with a woman unless you are ready to marry her and become a parent.
2007-09-01 15:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley W 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is this the woman you would marry if you were ready? Then I would say you better get ready and marry her now, for your son or daughter's sake.
If you don't want to marry THIS WOMAN, then you step up to the plate and do everything a caring single dad would do. You go to dr. with her, you help financially, you help with the late nights, you help with anything Mom needs. She's bearing your child.
So even if you just slept with her because she was convenient, you now have an inseverable bond to this woman and her child, married or not. Your child deserves to have you in every part of his or her life.
TX Mom
2007-09-01 22:11:21 · answer #2 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't get married. Times are different, you don't have to run out and have a shot gun wedding. If you want to get married later on down the line, fine -- if not, fine. Don't rush into anything because a baby is on the way, it will add undo stress. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 8 years and we have 2 beautiful daughters with no plans of marriage in the near (or far) future.
2007-09-01 22:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by Andrea C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to marry but be there for your child and support them, the mom - emotionally and thru the pregnancy and the child as though you were married to his/her mom. Support them financially too. Never say anything bad about the mom to your child.
It is time to stand up and be a man. It sounds like you are saying that you care for her but marriage scares you. It can certainly be a scary thought but was that your feeling before you knew about the child or was it a distant possibility? Could it be that fatherhood is what is scaring you? I have news for you, being a parent any time can be scary. It is a big responsibility but one you were created to do. You will find yourself loving that little person more than you can ever imagine.
2007-09-01 22:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by Free Thinker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do your instincts tell u to do? Please do not get married, just because she's pregnant, or she pressures u into it. But please do take responsibility for the baby. You owe that to the baby, to her and to society. Make sure you are physically there, emotionally and mentally supportive to them, as well as financially. It is extremely hard to raise a child alone. Studies show that kids are better off when both parents are present in their lives. You never know, you may not be ready o get married now, but this could grow into a wonderful and lasting relationship. (Keep in mind that relationships themselves can be stressful, and babies can magnify that, but having a baby is wonderful. Once they start laughing, climbing, and running around, they are so much fun!)
2007-09-01 22:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not ready to marry, then don't. You didn't wait until you were married to make the baby together, why get married just because she is pregnant? Just be there for her and your child. Don't get married if you feel your not ready, or else there will be regrets toward one another and the child.
2007-09-01 22:11:09 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont get married. You may both think that it's what needs to be done, but in the long run it could just complicate things. Wait till after the child is born and see if your still in love and happy together. Then think about getting married. You dont have to be married to be involved in your childs life.
2007-09-01 22:09:17 · answer #7 · answered by Kotori 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't get married just because you fathered a child but be ready to be there when needed and be prepared to provide for the child.
2007-09-01 22:13:57 · answer #8 · answered by countryside_quilter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree 100% with the first answer you got on here....
you can still love her and support her and your child.
people are anal about being married before your baby arrives... and even though i was married b4 i got pregnant some people dont plan and accidents happen and thats no reason to rush and get married. take your time and get married when your ready... your obviously not ready because you said it yourself.... no use in divorce later on down the road because you thought you had to get married because your having a baby...
take your time and things will work themselves out in the end..
good luck.
2007-09-01 22:11:36 · answer #9 · answered by AC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT get married because of a baby. You may resent it later on. You do need to stay around and be supportive of her, no matter whether or not your relationship lasts. And you need to be a parent to that child. Even if you and her don't work out, that baby didn't ask to be brought here-you need to stay involved in the child's life.
2007-09-01 22:11:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋