People that I have talked to said that because we are both virgins and we love each other our relationship will change.
For the better or something different?
They say that sex changes everything in a relationship but............how so?
2007-09-01 14:58:38 · 19 answers · asked by Street Wise 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
FYI She doesn't know either.....so we both are asking this question....
2007-09-01 14:59:55 · update #1
i don't think so. i mean you may be disappointed or pleasantly surprised but since you love each other enough to get married that will not change.
2007-09-01 15:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by saveit 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its hard to explain. Yes, sex does change a relationship. You get to know each other during sex in a way you didn't before. It changes your bond to something deeper.
Sex can also harm a relationship. Sex is a driving force, a biological need. People don't handle it well when they are not sexually satisfied. Make sure you are both open and honest with each other about sexual needs and desires.
Research sex in any way you can to learn as much as possible. Read books, internet articles, even watch porn together and talk about what you think of what you see. I have watched porn with my husband quite a few times. Sometimes we laughed, sometimes we were turned on and sometimes we were simply shocked. The good thing is we learned of things we wanted to try and we learned a lot about what the others likes and dislikes are.
And have fun with it!!! Sex doesn't always have to be a serious thing. It can be lusty, loving, fun and a million other things between a couple.
A good, healthy, sex life will strengthen the bond you have and bring about a closeness you never even knew existed. Not to mention, there is a potential for a lot of shared pleasure.
2007-09-01 15:07:49 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your impending marriage.
Advice to you is to not base everything on your wedding night. My wife and I fell asleep as soon as we hit the hotel room as we were dead tired. The real honeymoon began the next day and it was wonderful. :-)
Sex enhances your relationship especially when it is with one partner. As you become more intimate with you partner, learn about each other, and you are both committed to pleasuring each other your relationship becomes extra special because it is something that only the two of you share.
Having sex is great yes but what makes a relationship more special is the intimacy you share outside of the bedroom by getting to know each other more, to the point where you can sense what your partner is thinking or feeling without having to use words. Wanting to make each other happy and working to make that happen. Planning the future together, respecting each other, and sticking by that commitment to be faithful to each other.
Yes your relationship will change but not just based on your first night together. Relax, you will learn with each experience, be open to anything, and it is OK because you belong to each other and that additional intimacy added to love, will increase your connection to each other.
Congratulations again on your marriage.
2007-09-08 14:02:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What changes is the Bond you have with her it will heighten your sense of Love and Caring for this woman. Good, Bad or indifferent That night will start something new in your life but you have to take it to the next level, explore each other find what makes her tick and then drive her nuts. Sex is a tool, a weapon and a life rope it all depends on where you are standing.
2007-09-09 05:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kornbred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really never know until you try. People say a lot of things about sex in a relationship and how it changes things. For one thing, unless you take precautions, she might get pregnant.
Sex is a meaningless primal dance that we do with our lovers to make babies and has nothing to do with the expresion of love for one another. Sex is just sex.
If you love each other you will want to learn what each other like. You both probably are in for a big disappointment. People tell a lot of lies about how magical and wonderful it was their first time.
The beauty of it is that it gets better and more fun because you learn about each other. Sex doesn't change a relationship, either...
People change.
Remember that and bask in each other's love.
Most of all, don't worry too much about it.
Good luck
2007-09-08 12:03:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It will change for the better. It will be such a special night.
I think that people are talking about the change in your relationship after you've gotten over the fact that you're having sex now.
When you actually get over the sex thing you will have to actually have a relationship with a spouse not a girlfriend.
That takes a lot of work.
2007-09-01 15:11:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love making should be a very special time for the both of you, it is an emotional connection. Don't lose the emotional connnection and you will find that your intimacy will grow stronger and better with each year. There is a difference in sex and love making....sex is for animals and love making is an emotional connection that should be cherished and loved. Love making should be done all day (building up to it) and then when it is time to go to bed, it is a wonderful feeling.
2007-09-01 15:12:19 · answer #7 · answered by Dean e 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex might change things only if you aren't married, then you might look at each other differently, don't base to much on your first love making on your wedding night, it might be a little awkward but it will only get better, love making just enhances your marriage. The big life changing moment will be when you become husband and wife. Congratulations, I wish you the best!
2007-09-01 15:07:34 · answer #8 · answered by Tommy H 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Relationships always change when you get married, but it's supposed to be for the better. If you are both virgins, then that, in and of itself is a blessing. Then the two of you can learn and love together.
Sometimes. it's best not to listen to what other people say. Just because it didn't work for them, doesn't mean it won't work for you. Good luck and GOD bless.
2007-09-07 05:58:12 · answer #9 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, sex changes things. it opens a lot of things you didn't feel before. but if you are in a loving, committed relationship, which you are if you are marrying for the right reasons, then the physical bond you share should strengthen your relationship. but remember, it might not be all you think it should be the first time. virgins can read all they want, check out everything about sex, and still go in with their eyes closed. don't discount it. like everything else in life, it will take practice. when I married my first husband, it was SOOOO not what I thought it would be. (he apparently thought sex was dirty, even though we were married!) with my relationship now, we are committed to each other, even though we are not talking about marriage. sex with us is a bonding time. we make love, we enjoy each other. and afterwards, we share a pillow and talk. when things are rushed in life, between working, his kid and mine, keeping the house, running the errands, sometimes it feels like we're missing something. but when we get to lay in the bed at night, cuddle up, and talk about the little things, it means a lot to both of us. we get to catch up. and once you get in the swing of being married, and doing all the things married life will entail, you will learn the importance of one on one time. and for lack of something better to compare it to, think of when you share a lingering kiss. think about how that feels. and know that once you get the hang of sex, you'll have that feeling, only multiplied infinitely. when you make love with the person you're married to, there is no better feeling than being right there sharing that intimacy, and knowing that it's as important to that person as it is to you. hope this helps!
2007-09-01 15:13:16 · answer #10 · answered by flgalinms 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For the better, there will be an increased sense of emotional intimacy and bonding. Deeper attachment. It's a blessing! It may be a little awkward and perhaps hurt (for her) at first but husbands and wives have been doing it since Adam and Eve. You'll get the hang of it, congratulations!! Really some things are hard to explain, you just have to experience them for yourselves.
=)
2007-09-09 11:17:48 · answer #11 · answered by Jaykay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋