I asked this question earlier, but didn't post many details of the situation before I got many of the responses, so I want to post it again with the details.
I have a four year old son who lives with me 1/3 of the time (10 nights per month) I pay $1000 per month in support in addition to 1/2 of daycare and copays, and 100% medical/dental costs withheld from my paycheck.
My ex called me up today and told me that she enrolled our son in soccer and asked if I would pay half of the fees (my part is $65).
Financially, I have no problem paying the money. The problem I do have is that I think the money should come out of support. She gets plenty.
It doesn't cost anywhere near $1000 (tax free) per month to raise a child.
BTW, I have 100% custody of my eight year old son from a previous relationship, so I know what it costs to raise a child - and I've received NO support for him since I've had him by myself (6 years).
2007-09-01 14:44:07 · 10 answers · asked by foobarred 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really want my son to play, and will do what it takes if needed. I just don't want to set a precedent. Especially when I know that mom gets $150 haircuts.
2007-09-01 14:46:02 · update #1
I believe your ex is taking advantage of the fact that you can afford to pay the support plus other things.
You should try to communicate with your ex and resolve the matter of "extras".
What is extra and what is not within reason.
2007-09-01 14:55:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell mommy to go to a cheaper salon this month to pay for his soccer. You are right, she needs to be budgeting and spendin her money responsibly so that she can afford extras for her son. She does recieve a fair deal on support.
If she has an issue with it, refer to me. I have two girls and their father hasn't paid a penny in support or medical care since I left him. That was over 6 years ago. I get $15.00 haircuts and buy my clothes at resale shops or WalMart so that my kids can have what they need.
2007-09-01 14:52:51 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are not getting visitation with your kids, that is against the divorce degree also. If she isn't letting the kids come than that is contempt of court. I would insist on the kids coming to see me on my regular visitation, it doesn't matter if they are in sports or not, she should have taken that into consideration when she let them get involved. Your rights are being stepped on. When she writes about the money, ask when the kids are coming over, because that is also written in the papers. She might change her mind when she finds out that you also have rights and she is going against the courts.
2016-04-02 22:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to pay the money. It costs a lot to raise a child. His support is support to be at least half of what the household bills are if it is just the two of them. That is half of rent, utilities, gas when she transports him, school supplies and clothes, little medicine from the store and money for field trips and such. it costs a lot to raise a child. She is only asking for half..some would ask for all of it. Sounds like she is splitting it with you. It is your son so help out and make sure he has what he needs.
2007-09-01 15:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by chris d 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Legally if it isn't stipulated in the divorce papers, you don't have to pay it.
But if you want him to play, then just pay your 1/2. I would however explain to your Ex that you are only agreeing to pay because you want him to play the sports, but you are not legally required to pay per the divorce decree. That way you're not setting a precedent in her mind at least, you've told her you don't have to pay, but you are being generous and paying anyway.
2007-09-01 14:52:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
"It doesn't cost anywhere near $1000 (tax free) per month to raise a child." Obviously you don't live in California...And it's not your ex wife's fault that YOU aren't getting child support form the mother of your 8 year old...that's YOUR fault for not filing for it and having it enforced.
2007-09-01 15:46:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
either way...pay the darn sport fee. the courts deemed it $1000.00 oer month plus all the extras. if we even out incomes....that must mean she puts in the other $1000.00 to raise the child. so i'm guessing the both of you make a pretty good amount. what a lucky kid. who cares what she spends her money on every month. it's half and half. i have two kids and i'm not received a dime from their father. and yes...my oldest wants to play soccer too.
2007-09-01 15:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by Isabella S 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She should take the sports fees from the amount you already pay.
2007-09-01 14:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey just pony up the cash-at least she not hitting u up to pay the whole thing.plus if you want him to play,and he wants to play,its no big deal,right?
2007-09-01 14:48:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you need to get a vacetomy. You cannot keep making them and not expect to cough up
2007-09-01 14:51:49 · answer #10 · answered by Bob S 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋