Every serious relationship I've had has ended in the girl cheating on me. I'm a nice guy. What gives?
2007-09-01 14:43:00 · 12 answers · asked by K D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't seem to be picking the right women. Likely you go for the same type, and each time you get burned. You need to date someone completely different from the women you've been choosing or you're going to end up with the same problem every time. I don't think it has anything to do with you being a nice guy, but rather poor choices in women. Maybe let someone you trust pick your next one?
2007-09-01 14:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU'RE TOO FRICKIN NICE!!!
Plain and simple.
Nice guys have problems setting boundaries when it comes to relationships, so they tend to let lots of stuff slide that they really shouldn't.
In effect, a Nice Guy is afraid that he'll lose favor in the eyes of his girl, so he tends to agree with everything she says.
Don't be afraid to say "no". Who cares what other's think? They live their life the way the choose, so why the hell can't you?
You need to find that righteous anger inside of you. If you don't lift weights, you should start. A lot of people lift weights to become bigger, but it's supposed to be about being stronger, activating your willpower (solar plexus chakra if you study them).
Just say no and don't be afraid of how the other person will react.
If they get mad, screw 'em. There's billions of people on the planet and you literally step outside and find a better girlfriend.
My experience with women is that they love a man who can stand by what he believes, and more importantly, a man who can tell them NO!!!!
I feel that you might be worrying too much about how other will feel if you don't give them what they want. Like i said, Just say No.
Watch the shock on your family members and friend's faces when you deny them something. Watch the respect they develop for you because of your newfound spirit of personal strength.
Amir
2007-09-01 15:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by Amir C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're looking for love in all the wrong places, as the song goes. I'm a nice guy, and I don't always finish last. Most of my buds are nice guys too, and several of 'em are pretty darn successful. You gotta know how to play the game; know when to hold 'em and know when to fold 'em. Don't count your money while you're at the table; there'll be time enough for counting when the dealing's done - that is, at the close of your life.
2007-09-01 15:40:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So... approximately your query: I'm definite he likes you. one hundred%. One day, he would even get the braveness to invite you out correctly on a date. However, this is additionally an opinion from me.. take it or depart it. In my revel in, the men who've been so so so reluctant to preserve matters sincere and transparent have all been SO SO SO tousled within. They're simply... murals. A lot of them have had bizarre traumas after they had been younger or come from damaged houses. I've had a bit of revel in with men like him considering that there used to be a bit of aspect of me that desired to "treatment him" and likewise I used to be so flattered via his passionate love. Oh my god, I remorse that SO a lot now. It's a HUGE HUGE pink flag. The cause why he is going from side to side among being form to you and being a jerk is considering that he is so reluctant to be susceptible and sincere to you (possibly his prior trauma made him scared? I have no idea) The factor is, although you make a decision to this point him, this lack of confidence and yo-yo of feelings will preserve. He will probably be so loving to then you definately be a whole *** whilst you ask him for a bit of want considering that he simply "does not wish to be that dweeb that will get used." He will throw his frame brain and soul into the connection after which get fairly harm and pissy pissy over one small shaggy dog story considering that he is so scared that you just would belittle him or lose appreciate for him. The drama is drinking and so tiring. And then ultimately, whilst you come to be going via that tearful week whilst you reluctantly get a divorce with him considering that you're in order that exhausted from the drama, he's going to be so totally harm that he's going to spend the following few weeks telling all people you recognize what a dull c*nt you're. Who does that? It's so now not valued at it. I consider his erratic conduct is a signal that he is now not socially adjusted. I could keep away and cross with any individual who's extra traditional....it is simply easier.
2016-09-05 21:03:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry the only one that counts is the one that gets you to the alter.Your bad experiences with your former relationships will help you to recognize the right girl when you meet her.
You sound young,take your time. If I were you I would lighten up for a while and just go out for a good time.
2007-09-01 14:59:33 · answer #5 · answered by Julius C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You pick the wrong kind of girl. Try a different type...I would never cheat on my husband and he's a nice guy.
2007-09-01 14:52:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're picking the wrong girls? I'm sensing not the nice ones.
2007-09-01 14:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too much of a nice guy isn't a smart guy.
2007-09-01 15:41:00 · answer #8 · answered by reinformer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why nice guys don't want to hang out with the nice girls?
2007-09-01 15:31:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it either... it seems like the better you treat them, the worse they treat you.... the guys that treat their women like dirt and they have women throwing themselves at them.
2007-09-01 14:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by sumfin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋