This guy that I have a crush on watched me take care of some little kids at a place that I babysit at. Once I was away from the kids he gave me a gentle but yet serious look on his face. He grabbed me around the waist, pulled me to him in a tight embrace, and whispered that he is going to marry me and wants me to have his children. I was rather shocked since it came out of no where. He is also really popular with the girls at our highschool. I guess he likes me too since he also told me that he likes that I'm a nice girl and that I'm still a virgin and explained to me that he'd like to take my virginity on our wedding day. A lot of girls like him and I'm the shy cute type of girl while he's the good looking sociable popular guy at school. All of this is happening so fast! What in the world is going on!
2007-09-01 14:34:27 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Take it easy... Make sure if its you hes in love with .... Or hes in love with you still being a virgin....@
2007-09-01 14:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
As salaamu 'alaikym, my young friend.
What you have reported sounds like a marriage proposal.
Once you heart has slowed down back to near normal, you need to ask yourself some very serious questions such as:
Are you ready for the changes that would accompany getting married?;
Are you ready (mature enough, well able to take care of and manage, etc.) having children?
Is he still seeing other young ladies as he supposedly waits for you?
Have you discussed with him religion, finances, the responsibilities of married life, the division of domestic duties, possible future plans, etc.?
If you have discussed such, have you been able to reach an agreement that is mutually beneficial to both of you?
Have you discussed this with either your parents or with another adult whom you trust and whose opinion you respect?
How old are you and how old is he?
Do you have common interest as well as some differences which you can celebrate and which will not divide you?
This is a major step in your life. Please, do not take it lightly and well prepare yourself with knowledge before you agree to anything and, most importantly, absolutely no premarital sex!
ma'a salaam.
2007-09-01 14:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by Big Bill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has always had this idea in his head of exactly how the mother of his kids would act and you did just that. Mix that with the interest that he already has in you and you have an instant relationship. So has he asked you to be his girl yet?? That should be happening soon. Just remember that you can take your time with him and get to know him before you make any quick decisions. Like him for who he is not for what he just said to you. Good Luck
2007-09-01 14:44:56 · answer #3 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds like he really likes you! Just keep being yourself, because it appears to be working. Guys don't usually say things like that, unless they are trying to romance you to get you to sleep with them, but if he likes that you are a virgin then that doesn't appear to be the case.
I would say he's pretty serious about you! Though please don't start planning the wedding, because you have a lot of years to grow yet. But a meaningful and beautiful relationship in HS, even if it doesn't last forever, is still a great thing.
2007-09-01 14:44:17 · answer #4 · answered by Courtney 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is after a prized possession ..... your virginity. Keep it and keep your head on during this ride he's trying to take you on. This is reverse psychology at it's best/worst .... he acts like he doesn't want it, so that your defenses are down, then he goes in for the kill. OR ... he is actually being truthful and you will only know that if you wait until that "wedding day" :-)
2007-09-01 14:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by QueenBeeFee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a line to me. He must know you have a crush on him and he wants to take advantage of that and get laid. If this was one of the first serious things he said to you, it's too fast to be real. Be careful.
2007-09-01 14:42:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
AWWWWW!! how cute!! i guess first of all that means he likes you. are you dating? a couple? if so how long? anyway...uhm normally guys overexaggerate with girls so iok if you wanna marry him or not but i think when he saw you with the kids something sparked in him that said "hey this girl is good with kids and she'd be a great mom." so he just wanted to tell you how he felt about it. good luck! =)
2007-09-01 14:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by freakileeki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It pretty much means he's got a SERIOUS thing for you. Apprently he wants to marry you and have children with you. Either he's playing a cruel joke or he has a HUGE crush on you.
2007-09-01 14:42:03 · answer #8 · answered by Rain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems self explanatory to me. He wants to marry you and is willing to wait until you marry to have sex. He sounds wonderful to me. He respects you. You aren't getting married now and do not have to marry for a long time so it isn't fast. Take your time and hopefully it will all work out. Save yourself for marriage!
2007-09-01 14:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by ruthie 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be VERY wary of this guy. If you guys are not dating and he says these things to you, it sends signals that his is a very controlling psycho sort of man. Don't get too involved with him.
2007-09-01 15:08:13 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋