My girlfriend of two years is now in the arms of another!!!?

Question

Ok, with all realness, here it goes. Briefly, my girlfriend and I of two years just broke up about 3=4 wks ago. With in that 3wk time, she met another guy, and in less than a wk, clinged to him, as sayin she became intimate in spending time with him, they've kissed, and she has introduced him to her family(her children, mother, and siblings), and again, we've only been broken up 3wks and she knew this guy for only a week.
Now, last night I went to her home, because I needed questions answered. I wanted to know how could she in such a short period of time, move on so fast. I've also reaffirmed my love for her and told her 3wks was too short for me to get over you and move on to another.... Well, during the course of the night, her lover called(several times), she never answered the phone, and I ended up staying the night. The next day(today) she and I are in eachother's arm. We're kissing, and I swear it felt so good to hold her again...God it felt good. But anyway, I tried a

suggestion from a former "answer" and told my "ex" that I was seeing someone else(when it really was my brother) and she, as the person said it, got jealous, asked alot of questions, and etc. Then I became weak, and confessed to her that I lied and am uncapable of doing such so soon. But then she grabbed my phone, searched through the numbers and found the number of a female co-worker, who was mutual friends. She questioned me about it, and I told her, she invited me and her(ex) to a B-day party, but I had to call the coworker back and tell her that my ex and I couldn't make it, when in fact it was b/c we were broken up. My "ex" was jealous, of course, but you have to remember that it is going on week 2 with her and her lover. You also have to remember that during this dialog, she has infact had/still has a relationship with another guy, but still she's questioning me on why there's a woman's # in my phone...

So, anyway she and I ended up having sex, but she ended up crying(obviously she still had feelings, and so did I), so the sex ended, but we continued to talk. And during the dialog between she and I, she reiterated that she was going out of town to see her mother. I asked can I come. She responds with, "I don't think you should because you'll cause confrentation" I respond with what do you mean? She says, "because my friend will be there". So she reaffirmed to me that not only is she going out of town to tend to her sick mother, but she's also going to spend time with her "lover". So I tell my ex, fighting back tears, that I'll have to move on. I told her that I've deleted her name from my phone, and that I removed all her pictures from my apartment and burned them. I told her it's obvious you've gotten over me, but I'm not over you. B/c I cant jump into another relationship so soon, I'll rid YOU of my life and quit every thing that reminds me of you. She was hurt b/c I

burned the pictures and deleted her from my phone, and she responded with,"I never did that to you" and I said but you've moved on because you're with another man.....she didn't like that I burned what memories I had of us. I told her, I only kept two pics as for memories.....but I don't want to remember....well, I don't want to think of you, I can't, it hurts too much. Any way, she's mad with me now, b/c I burned the pics and deleted her from my phone, but as I type this question, she is right now, probably in this guys arms. Why? I'm confused....Why would she be upset with my trying to close this chapter of my life. Why would she be upset because of how I'm trying to get over her? I don't understand. Looking at her pictures only make me remember and miss her more. Why can't she see that?

Answer 1

You said a mouth full. I guess she's trying to hold on to u just in case it doesn't work out with her new lover..In my book I think she's trying to be a player...Having her cake and eating it too. If she loses u, she won't have anything to fall back on...She wants u to want her...go after her like a little puppy...From the sound of things, you're too smart to be tricked into something like that...If u've done everything from burning pictures and deleting her from your phone, then baby it's time to start the process of the healing...That means not excepting her phone call, emails, texts, and even her showing up unannouced at your door. It's going to be hard, but u have to try to fight it...Occupied yourself w/stuff....it'll work...I've been there myself before.....

Answer 2

Okay, she wants both worlds, she wants to know that she means everything to you, but wants the other guy too. If she insists on things working with the two of you, she has to leave him. It sounds like she still loves you a great deal, but wants to sleep with this other guy too. You are in a difficult situation because you love her, obviously, and can't handle seeing her with someone else. Maybe try and give her a time frame, to make a decision. say two weeks. at the end of two more weeks, she has to decide him or you, and if she chooses him, it has to be time for you to get out and find someone else too, because if she knows you are single, she will come crawling back when things don't work out with the new guy.

Answer 3

Ah, a conventional case of the opposite lady. You younger guys hold making the equal mistake, you notice another lady you assume will likely be greater than your precise female friend, then recognize it is all for your head and you're making a tremendous mistake. You must both get a divorce along with your present female friend and pursue the opposite lady. Or stick with this one and that i wager you can continuously surprise what if. So my advocate is to offload this female friend, as breaks are a cowards means of breaking apart. If you and your present gf get again in combination someday (if she ever forgives you or if she does not discover any individual who loves her and best has eyes for her), then you are supposed to be in combination. You're a tender guy and stuff like this occurs. Learn from this.

Answer 4

It sounds like she's not sure just what she wants.

This new guy: either she started seeing him when you two were still together, or he is the 'rebound' guy.

Why did you two break up anyway? Did she say? Maybe she was hoping you would propose or something, and she got tired of waiting. This would mean she still loves you, but needs more than you were giving her. It sounds like she still loves you.

I would apologise for hurting her feelings, and tell her you want to still be with her, but that she has to stop seeing other people. And ask what you can do to repair your relationship. what can you give her, what does she need?

Answer 5

First.....you're wondering how she can find another man so fast after you've broken up, it's simply because she met him before you 2 broke up.

Second...she is crying when she's having sex with you cause she knows she's not being honest with you.

Third.....she is jealous of another woman in your phone. Means absolutely nothing, I did the same thing to a guy, I acted jealous of another women but I didn't want to be with him anyway. It's a woman thing (I don't want you but I don't want you to have anyone else).

Fourth....She is with another man, introducing him to her family, having sex with him........I mean don't you have any pride left in you?

Fifth.....Life is made of 'good byes' it's time for you to learn how to do yours.

Answer 6

Dump her, count your blessings you found out about her before you married her.

Answer 7

Good luck.