What makes a person hate themself?

Answer 1

ALTHOUGH it is often classed as 'mental illness', clinical depression often has as many physical symptoms as mental. The feelings or emotions that are depression symptoms actually begin to cause the physical effects. How this happens is a vital part of understanding depression and the symptoms that come with it.

If you are depressed at the moment some of the following symptoms may sound familiar:


You feel miserable and sad.
You feel exhausted a lot of the time with no energy .
You feel as if even the smallest tasks are sometimes impossible.
You seldom enjoy the things that you used to enjoy-you may be off sex or food or may 'comfort eat' to excess.
You feel very anxious sometimes.

You don't want to see people or are scared to be left alone. Social activity may feel hard or impossible.

You find it difficult to think clearly.

You feel like a failure and/or feel guilty a lot of the time.

You feel a burden to others.

You sometimes feel that life isn't worth living.

You can see no future. There is a loss of hope. You feel all you've ever done is make mistakes and that's all that you ever will do.
You feel irritable or angry more than usual.

You feel you have no confidence.

You spend a lot of time thinking about what has gone wrong, what will go wrong or what is wrong about yourself as a person. You may also feel guilty sometimes about being critical of others (or even thinking critically about them).
You feel that life is unfair.

You have difficulty sleeping or wake up very early in the morning and can't sleep again. You seem to dream all night long and sometimes have disturbing dreams.

You feel that life has/is 'passing you by.'

You may have physical aches and pains which appear to have no physical cause, such as back pain.

It's this wealth of depression symptoms, and the broad scope that confuses many people as to what depression actually is. Explanations rarely cover all the symptoms, and everybody's experience is different.

Answer 2

I wouldn't say that it is always due to abnormalities (mentally).

I mean, by default most people are OK with who they are, but maybe that's just because they happen to have a neutral face that most people would be content with having...

I've theorized that maybe none of us are exactly what we wish we could look like. Some might believe so because it is easy to appreciate what you look like if what you look like is universally appealing. I mean, we are inclined to WANT to be satisfied with who we are, because we can't change it, and it's convenient.

Me? I wish, I wish, I wish I could have a different face, different voice, different self... I feel embarrassed when I hear myself or see my likeness on a homemade video... I even feel odd when I pursue something and achieve it, thinking that I don't really deserve it and that I spend too much selfish time trying to satisfy myself with things I covet.

Answer 3

Lack of self-efficacy
Lack of self-worth
Low self esteem

Then you get into the series of psychological categories and diagnosis.
Depression, personality disorders etc.

If it interferes with your daily life then it becomes a problem that would require outside help.

Answer 4

Not living up to your own expectations, constantly letting yourself down. Just not being good enough for yourself no matter how well you do something.