Tell me the 2 top things to keep a marriage together.?

Question

oh NO!....I CAN'T possibly pick a best answer from all these.....what to do?.....lol

Answer 1

I think God and communication.

I know many have put honesty, but I think that comes hand in hand with putting God first in your marriage. It also is essential for communication.

I guess I gave a "Dr. Phil" answer...haha

Answer 2

Though I can't speak from experience, I do know how my father looks at his relationship with my mother. He has always said that before anything else in a relationship, you must make sure that you have God as the center. After that is taken care of all the rest should fall into place. Other important things that are necessary for a good marriage include love, respect, the ability to listen, and the ability to truly voice how you are feeling. But like I've said, I am no expert and can only go by how my father looks at his relationship with my mother. God Bless Beth.

Answer 3

1. Mayonnaise 2. Onions 3. Broccoli 4. Cauliflower 5. Brussel sprouts 6. Achovies 7. Vodka 8. Pompous jackasses 9. Whiny kids 10. Arrogant parents (My little Johnny would never do THAT).

Answer 4

Granted, I've only been married for 5-1/2 years, so I'm not the voice of "long" experience.

But I do believe this...1) committment to fight, struggle and keep hammering away at keeping the relationship alive.
2) Not only open communication, but dedication to being a team.

And never...never giving up. I'll quit this, the best job I've ever had, I'll move to whereever she wants to move, and I'll wash as many dishes and mow the yard as many times as she wants - because I'm not giving up, and I know she's not giving up either.

Marriage...it's like a flower. If we don't water it and give it sunlight every day...it will wither away and eventually die.

Answer 5

Hi Beth! Nice bright background to your Avatar.

Wow! tough question Beth. I have been married to a Georgia peach for twenty three years. I am absolutely sure that she is the "better half".

#1. Our commitment and Love for Christ
and for each other.
A. Respect for each other' ideas.
B. We don't try to change each other.
C. Pray for each other daily
D. Lot's of Romance.

#2. Open Communication.
A. Feeling comfortable to talk about
anything.
B. Agree to disagree without ill
feelings. (This takes time and
much prayer)
C. Learning to be a good listener
without having all the answers.

Thanks for this nice post Beth. May God bless everyone who responded. May God strengthen our marriage.

Answer 6

I think there is a misconception about marriage out there. I keep hearing people say that good marriages are 50/50.

I'm hear to tell you that they are 100/100. Both partners have to give of themselves, all of the time.

Here's my top two for keeping a marriage together...

1) SERVE him or her. Consider the other MORE IMPORTANT than yourself. Forget that "self-love" stuff. How about some "self-less love" instead? I have yet to meet the spouse who doesn't respond to a partner who considers their feelings, makes choices in their best interests, considers their wants and preferences and asks questions that say, "I truly am interested in you, in the things that are important to you. I want to know you MORE."

Most divorces occur because of selfishness. "He isn't meeting MY needs." "She doesn't understand me." It is a wrong perspective to marry someone and sit around expecting them to start making you happy!


2) Resolve to be a person of your word. If you said "til death do us part"... then be a person who keeps their word. We've told our children that we will never divorce. We love God so much that we could NEVER choose something that He has said He hates. (Malachi 2:16)

Answer 7

Communication and Trust.. Without communication there IS no marriage---no two people can stay together without it....I think a LOT of marriages fail because people forget how to communicate with one another.... Trust is a given... if you do not trust your spouse, once again, it is difficult to live with someone you can't or DON'T trust.

Answer 8

To be self-aware and then selfless.

First, know who you are -- how can you have someone loving you when you don't even know what there is to love.

Second, be confident enough to be able to place the collective needs of the marriage before your individual desires when required. You have to be strong enough not to be threatened by this. If you are with the right person, pursuing the collective needs will not endanger your pursuit of your individual goals.

Answer 9

I might be the only one who sais this but have some of the same goal and be willing to join previous lives. I know once anyone has a relationship the past goes away,but its easier to deal and work toward the future. I am in a very stable relationship with the woman of my dreams,yes im a lesbian. My best friend and companion mean the world to me.

Answer 10

Setting time aside during the day to just one-on-one talk to eachother (communication) & trust

When you have a problem, you should be able to turn to the word of God for help. God must be #1 in the marriage.

Answer 11

Mutual Respect
Communication