Ok well their is this person who works with my husband.It is getting out of control now.first she tries to talk my husband into buying a motorcycle and I hate motorcycles.now this person wants me to go to some motorcycle club to try to talk me into letting my husband get a motorcycle. It's really starting to piss me off!!!! Right now I have so much on me and I can't take something like this right now .First my husband and I need to move out of my parents house and I need a car so that I can work.I need to find a day care to put my son in .Also I need to start my sons shots so that he can go to day care. I can't help but think that this person may have some plan up their sleeve because they want my husband to herself
2007-09-01 13:39:01 · 19 answers · asked by KITTY S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would go straight to the girl that is making all the suggestions & I would say 'he's MY husband, our decisions have nothing to do with you and if you don't back off, you will be dealing with issues'. That would piss me off too, I can't believe the nerve of her! And I would jump your husband's a55 too for letting her get involved like that.
2007-09-01 13:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by ~Josie~ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe your husband wants the motorcycle and has asked her to help convince you to let him have one. He may think you would say an immediate no if he asked, but that having another woman ask might help his cause.
Either way, you need to explain to them both that a motorcycle isn't a priority right now. Tell them that there are other needs that must be met first, such as a safe and dependable car for the baby, daycare, medical care and a place to live. After that, you will need to save money for emergencies, pay monthly bills etc.
So, the motorcycle idea needs to be put on a shelf and revisited after other, more pressing, needs have been taken care of.
2007-09-01 20:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously know where your priorities are. Your husband on the other hand is living in some sort of dream world. You need to have a serious talk with him. Ask him, what's more important to you right now: something as materialistic as a motorcycle or a place for our family to live? You guys don't want to live with your parents forever, especially if you've already started a family. Seriously, talk to your husband. First things first. We need to find a place to live, I need a car, and then we'll talk about the motorcycle. Good luck.
2007-09-01 20:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay calm, every-thing will get better.
now, talking about the motorcycle: talk to your husband and let him know that what you guys really need right now is a CAR so you have a way to go find a job and take your son to daycare.... talk to him, don't scream, don't yell, don't give him a dirty look with whatever answer he gives you even if you don't like it, I'm not telling you to agree to the motorcycle if this is what he wants, I'm telling you to be smart and think before you answer. Let him know you guys do not need a motorcycle right now.
now regarding the b-i-t-c-h that is trying to get between you and your husband tell her to stay away or you are going to kick her behind.
2007-09-01 20:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by Yes_It's_Me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your husband want a motor bike before he met this woman? , most men do they just never say it .
Confront your husband explain how your feeling and what your responsibilities (yours and his ) are and come to some kind of arrangement maybe saying if in 5 years he still wants a motor bike after you have your own home , car , son settled in day care and can really financially say yes we're ok then he can go for the bike.
People forget whim's dont come cheap.
2007-09-01 21:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
tell her that her interferance is unappreciated kindly and tell your husband that you explained it to her in a very calm manor just the way you explained it here to us. then explain to your husband that she has to stop insisting that he get a motorcycle. and if he's promised her he would or he would get her one he better think twice about his future as a father and husband. because he's needed here and now and if he thinks it will be different with a different woman it won't she'll get pregnant sooner or later. and it starts all over again. you have grown up now is the time he has to decide to either grow up with you or move on out. it sounds as if your in the right time of your life to start over with someone more thoughtful and loving to you and your son if he isnt.
2007-09-01 20:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by p22peep2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a discussion you need to have with your husband. He's the one who should be setting this woman straight. He doesn't need to go into detail about your financial problems, but he could just say 'listen, my wife and I have other priorities right now'. I hope there's nothing more going on, but it does sound like an emotional affair is in the works.
2007-09-01 20:44:25 · answer #7 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your first instincts are correct. I thought the same thing as I was reading this. She likes bikers and likes your man, so her plan is to get him to buy a bike to give her rides on it and eventually make him hers. Have a serious talk with your man and have him tell her to take a hike she is interfering with your and your husbands relationship.
2007-09-01 20:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by Crazy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh girl u r soo right i know women cuz i am one and we know how sneaky we can be i get the same feeling u do this girl is tryin to mess with ur husband put ur foot down and tell ur husband the girl is pissin u off and to stay away from her at least for u if he truly loves u he will do it to make u comfortable good luck girly
2007-09-01 20:45:43 · answer #9 · answered by desertspark122 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise is to forget the other person, and sit down with your husband and make a plan to solve all the issues you just shared.
2007-09-01 20:43:01 · answer #10 · answered by itchianna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋