My Mother in law is wrecking my relationship with my husband...?

Question

She is taking over my family and wont give me privacy. She doesn't pay for anyting in the house and is living with us for free. My husband is not going to do anything after talking to him numerous times. I really want her out of my home and the only way to get her out is deporting her for being here on an expired tourist visa and is working. Can anyone help me to deport her????

Answer 1

Your mother in law isn't ruining your relationship, your husband is. He needs to put you first and insist that his mother respect your privacy and modify her behavior. Tell him that it's either her or you becuase you won't be disrespected in your own home.

Having her deported isn't exactly going to do wonders for your marriage either so give him the choice, and if he picks her, he's stuck with a freeloading mother who will ruin all of his relationships because he lets her.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Your relationship with your husband will surely be wrecked if you have his mother deported. The two of you need some marriage counseling. An objective professional could help your husband see that she has to go. Your other choice is to talk to her and lay the ground rules for your home.

Answer 4

Stop blaming your mother in law for the fact that your husband doesn't have a back bone. If you try to deport her it may damage if not wreck your marriage...You should have thought about all of this before you married this guy who can't cut the apron strings.

Answer 5

aren't ALL mother-in-laws a pain in the butt at times! i would start a fight then make it clear to her she could get deported and never see her son or grandkids ever again. might be mean but she obviously thinks your a push over. Speak up and dont be a push over. Dont be afraid to say no.

Answer 6

don't deport her. you have to find another solution. imagine if this were you mother. you would be FURIOUS if your husband had her deported.

instead, try these things:
-talk to your husband about a timeline for her leaving
-talk to your husband about setting guidelines for her behavior
-suggest family counseling so all 3 of you can better cope w/the situation
-talk to her (calmly) about your feelings & expectations
-consider paying for a small apartment for her to live nearby. this is costly, but may still be worthwhile to save your sanity.

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Answer 7

Set the two of them down and let them know eaxctly how you feel, Be sure and remind them you love them both, but that you guys need to be free to be your own family unit. Ask her if she would have been happy having HER in-laws live with she and her husband. as always, do so with respect.

Answer 8

Call the INS from a public phone, far away from your house and call anonymously. Don't call from your cell phone, otherwise, they can track you. Tell them the name of the person who is working illegally (your mother in law) and where she works. INS will come to her job and question her.
That way it will look like someone from her job spilled the beans about your mother in law!

Answer 9

You're asking for a world of trouble with your husband if you do this. I certainly can understand your frustration. If your husband isn't listening to you perhaps you could find a good marriage councellor who could help you to talk to each other.

Answer 10

tell that controlling mother in law to let go of your husband and find herself her own man. Those old mother in laws are a pain to their childrens marriages.