HOWED THIS HAPPEN?
Okay people I have one for you here it is.
My GRAND MOTHER got married before she married my grandfather and abandon her 1st daughter at 3 yrs old. Grand mother would latter at the age of 38 marry and have 3 more kid my father being the youngest of them.
Her daughter from her first marriage also got married young but unlike my Grandmother raised
(good for her) all 4 of her daughters!
One of her girls got PREGNANT at 14 and had a child, and child who had a son making my GRANDMOTHER a GREAT, GREAT Grandmother (confusing isn't) to a little boy who would grow up and without knowing anything one day find me crying over how messed up my life was!
We fell in love and would get married, with all the ups and downs that come with marriage but still very happy and full of LOVE.
NOW ONE KNEW ANYTHING ABOUT THIS
His Great Grandmother came over one day 5 months ago and found out her mother was my grandmother and well you guessed it all hit the fan!
2007-09-01 11:26:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
His Gr. grandmother who husband loves DEARLY has been going on, and on about how her "TRAMP MOTHER" was trash and he grandson should divorce me because were related!
My husband and I are 1st cousins 3 times removed and my father is his GREAT GRANDMOTHERS 1/2 bother as well.
Genetically chances of any birth defects are non exitance!
My father got into his 1/2 sister, husband's Gr.grandmothers face and my husband who my father LOVES DEARLY told him to "BACK OFF" let this be worked out by my grand mother his Gr.grandmother and stay out of it.
Problem is his Gr. grandmother is here today and my grandmother was here when she got here and it all exploded to the point I had to ask my grandmother to leave!
Now she thinks I taking side I'm not but trying to keep the peace.
Gen. Info. I'm 4 years older then husband we have triplets 2 yr. old girls, happily married 14 years My 2nd marriage his 1st. and till this problem perfect!
WHAT TO DO, I WANT TO SCREEM LEAVE US ALONE?
2007-09-01 11:26:41 · update #1
It's great being married of 14 years that for sure thatnks for noticing.
2007-09-01 16:55:02 · update #2
I say screw what everyone else thinks. If you happy and the children are healthy don't worry about it. Its not like you knowingly married your cousin right! Divorce isn't gonna solve anything whats done is done. Keep in touch with those you are close to and and leave those other folks behind. All they doing is messing with your head, u don't have to be miserable like them
2007-09-01 11:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by CrazyBeautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. it depends. If they're just dating for sexual crap or because everyone else is dating, it's stupid. But if they're actually mature and truly WANT to get to know the person and be with them, that's fine. But I honestly don't think 14-15 year old guys are mature enough or ready for a good relationship. Some of them are. I was 14, almost 15 when I went out with my first boyfriend and he was 16. This doesn't make me a ho, I was just more mature than guys my age and I actually LIKED the guy I dated and wanted to get to know him.
2016-05-18 23:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand being close to your family, but for now you need to make them all stay away and leave you and your husband and the family you created out of their drama!
Basically your grandmother is your hubby's great great grandmother - you've been happily married for 14 years and have children together. Don't let this ruin what you've worked so hard to build.
Best Wishes
2007-09-01 11:45:35 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Ariana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! This is honestly the first time I've heard anything like this and the only thing I can say is...Have all your family over that insist on the two of you not being together.Tell them (what they already know) that although, beyond anyone's control you are related,YOU ARE NOT GETTING DIVORCED!! Your children are healthy your marriage is wonderful and if they don't like it they don't have to be apart of it (your HAPPY lives).The only catch to saying that is you have to mean it because if you don't and you continue to let them in your lives you'll always be miserable and it will eventually affect your marriage. GOOD LUCK
2007-09-01 11:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by ckieldy05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first, IT'S WEIRD!, once that has been put out there, apply a law of peacein your house and around your presence, and tell then that. Make a plan with your husband that your going to be united on keeping the peace. tell all the parties involved you want no nastiness and rudeness and that this is your life and want to share it with them, and not fighting, but if this is the focus that they have , on distroying your famiily then you cannot spend time with them. Stick to the Plan. Because if not they will tear you apart.
2007-09-01 11:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by rxing 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be much easier to put some distance between you and your problems. Anyone that is causing your greif is not your freind.
I would also highly suggest that you and your husband receive some prof. help. It would not be as big of an issue with others if you were not disturbed by it.
2007-09-01 11:45:49 · answer #6 · answered by couv2020 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My head hurts too, wow, what do you do, wow is all I can say, I sorry to here this. Tell everyone to BUTT out of your life, if the two of you are happy and the kids are doing good, that's all that does matter.
2007-09-01 12:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh! Must be nice to be happily married. 14 yrs
2007-09-01 12:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by pain_of_unhappiness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell everyone that this is the past,it doesnt effect you and you are not going to dwell on something that cant be changed. that you are going to continue with your life as it is and if they cant keep the drama out , then to not come around you and your family.
2007-09-02 15:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My head hurts. So u and ur husband r like trailer park trash cause yall r like cousins or somethin? Ur kids definitly hav a chance of havin birth defects. Good luck with all that tho. =S
2007-09-01 11:36:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋