I've been chating with other people and watching their web cam while they do dirty stuff, but no harm is it? I'm married.
2007-09-01 10:59:52 · 17 answers · asked by skyfly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if I'm not touching anyone or physically doing any thing how is that cheating?
2007-09-01 11:17:31 · update #1
Of course its cheating. its just like bringing in another woman into your bedroom. Cheating isn't restricted to touching or having sex. If you're doing anything: talking, chatting, texting ,watching them on internet or anything that involves someone of the opposite sex that your wife or significant other wouldn't approve of,,,its CHEATING. Don't wait until she leaves you and is gone to figure it out.
2007-09-01 11:21:58 · answer #1 · answered by The Wižard 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
There is plenty wrong with it...For one, yes, it is cheating...If you are watching this stuff it's out of lust. For every minute you spend watching them you are cheating your wife out of time with her...You are basically into porn and that will always kill a marriage. In the Bible it says that if a man even thinks of sex with another woman it's the same thing as doing it...You are seriously undermining your marriage by doing what you are doing. What kind of people are they anyway that they will let you watch them having sex...it's terribly perverted on both sides of the camera...Turn your computer off, spend that time with your wife...Give to her the attention you are giving the web cam...
2007-09-05 08:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by Domino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. Are you chatting to individuals you met in a chat room or something to that effect and have a "personal" relationship? Or are you just on web cam sites where you pay to watch the porn? If it's with individuals, yes, it could be considered cheating.
EXample - If I had a web cam set up and I met a guy online in chat and we had been talking for awhile and I offered to let him watch "dirty acts" I'd perform for him, that would be more of a personal relationship; as opposed to if I had a web cam set up and there was a fee you had to pay and any one who paid could watch - more along the lines of porn.
Also - if you and your spouse are watching either one together, then it couldn't be taken as cheating.
I suggest discussing this with your spouse and making a decision together on what is or isn't considered cheating.
Best Wishes
2007-09-01 11:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Ariana 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its still cheating in an emotional sense. you are letting your partner think that they are not enough for you and this is very hurtful. intercourse is not the only way to cheat on someone. if your watching this other person doing "dirty stuff" then you obviously have some sort of relationship that is outside your marriage. Knock it off or get a divorce!
2007-09-05 10:09:28 · answer #4 · answered by Tina S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not technically cheating -- I mean, men have been reading Playboy and stuff forever.
However, it is cheating *emotionally*, especially if you are taking time away from your wife/SO to play Peeping Tom. Better to take some of those fantasies to bed with you and your SO than to just sit back and watch someone else have all the fun.
2007-09-01 11:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is considered cheating and worse when the other person is doing things on the webcam that is not appropiate. You should let your wife know and then find out what she says about this.
2007-09-01 11:14:13 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it is...so what you are not touching anybody... before,when there were no tv or computer men could not do such things,and those were times when cheating was considered as touching someone...now its 21 century.... so yes,thats is cheating... and why do u need to do it...u have a woman to lust for!! i hope she finds out and leaves you
2007-09-01 13:33:13 · answer #7 · answered by Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your wife what she thinks? Duh!! It's cheating and you damn well know it!
EDIT.....How would you feel if the wife were watching other people on the web cam? Would you consider it cheating?...if if she isn't touching anyone....she is just sitting there watching some guy playing with his HUGE D*CK!
2007-09-01 11:07:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are enjoying watching these things. Yes it is cheating. You are getting turned on.
2007-09-01 12:14:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
since you feel it isn't cheating, just leave the sites up for your spouse to enjoy too! Invite them to watch too and see if they feel the same way.
2007-09-01 13:28:36 · answer #10 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋