Did you dream of all the things you would do with your kids and all the things you would teach your kids about life - before they were born? and now that the kids are here in your life have those priorities and dreams for them changed much and how have they changed if they have?
2007-09-01 10:33:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Priorities changes, YES. Dreams, NO.
When you have children, they become your sole priority since everything you do effects them in some way.
The dreams are still alive and should be continually pursued since men & women doen't have to put their life totally on hold for their kids.
2007-09-01 10:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by Reo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a stay home mom and I home school all my children. I find time to clean the house, do the laundry, and take my kids to the park or just play with them outside. My dreams were to have a big family and to give my kids the love and attention and affection I never got from my own family. I have been making my dreams come true daily - my kids are happy, loved and well adjusted. Find the little things in life and view them through the eyes of your children - you'll see life in a completely different light.
2007-09-01 10:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Ariana 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dreams and reality are 2 totally different things. I have a 26 year old daughter. She had her own thoughts that took her down the wrong road, and I had no control over it whatsoever. Thank God she is fine now. Motherhood is not all it is cracked up to be. If you have a full time live-in nanny, you get the best of both worlds without all the responsibility and heartache that sometimes comes with being a parent.
2007-09-01 10:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make those dreams come true! They will love it. Going places with your kids might look more fun than it is but it's for them more than for you. I'm sure you don't go to Chucky cheeses becouse you like it so much. It's normal to not want to do all these things after a hard day at work but, thats part of the job. Try to have fun with it. Watching them smile is what it's all for. Plus kids can be a pain in the butt,you gotta do it anyway.
2007-09-01 10:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by Honey Bunny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awesome Question!! +5 points for you if I could!
To tell you the truth I didn't really think that much about what i would do with my children before they are born.. You see, mommys will fantasize and plan and dream big but daddys cant really get a hold on things until they see their child for the first time.
I never gave anything a second thought until I saw his face for the first time during delivery... then my mind was FLOODED with plans and dreams for them... Things I would do with them and the joy we would share together.
My boys are 8 and 5 now and I still have the same dreams for them and I still make many plans, but my little men like to be part of the decision process.. We vote. Since it's just me and my sons for awhile we live like bachelors and we make group decisions on just about everything.
I still have big plans for them, but I let them also control portions of their life, after all.. it is their life!
2007-09-01 10:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by nremtohio 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I always dreamed of having kids...they'd be well behaved,respectful,high achievers,well put together,etc.
We have six children(5 boys,1 girl) They are smart and funny. I realized that MY dreams aren't what they're all about. I will do everything necessary to take care of them.
They are their own people, not always doing what I'd wished for them, but worth the trouble just the same. I still hope for college before marraige and family,great success and a very long life.
2007-09-01 10:46:17 · answer #6 · answered by L.T. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Before I had kids, and I only babysat kids, I pictured myself taking them to the park everyday, and doing little crafts to hang around the house. I had a spotless house, looked amazing, and had 3 square meals cooked a day in this fantasy. Now I am lucky to get to vacuum once a week, we rarely do crafts, and the only meal I cook is dinner. Oh and the park is out since I also work full time.
2007-09-01 10:45:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is never what we dream or hope its going to be - having kids is really hard work- the dreams are wonderful but the reality is much harder and time is much shorter. Quit the dreaming cos its pointless- just enjoy what time you can with them.
2007-09-01 10:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by the Phoenix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dreamed we would own a home by the time my baby came so he and my older son could have a yard and there own room,but the medical bills took over that. Husband had gall stones and crushed his hand and needed surgery with pins and screws and my pregnancy bills wow!! I was gestational diabetic. Its still a dream and goal just postponed for awhile.
2007-09-01 10:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by Hugs from Sugar bug 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I did. I had the fantasy of spending all my time with them, coloring, singing, laughing, going to the park. The reality is that you can do some of those things, but there are every day chores that must be done to keep a healthy and happy home for them. It's just the way it is.
2007-09-01 10:40:26 · answer #10 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋