For the past few months I've been wondering what is going on with me. I've always been attracted to men and have had feelings for them, but have always wondered about what it would be like to be with a woman, and it turns me on a little, but not nearly as much as being with a man. I've never acted on being with a woman nor have I ever had feelings for one, but I've always had feelings for men since I was like 3. What is going on with this? Can anyone explain this to me? Is it possible to just be a little into the same sex? Could this make me a lesbian? Shouldn't I have feelings for someone of the same sex. And on this note, do you have to try being with someone physically to know you're attracted to them? Thank you.
2007-09-01 10:18:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Bi.
2007-09-01 10:23:07 · answer #1 · answered by Infamous Twit 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are normal. Don't put a label on yourself, humans are sexual beings and find other people attractive - of both sexes. Some societies and religions condemn attraction to the same sex but ignore them. You don't have to act on your homosexual attractions but if you do, fine. It doesn't define you or label you. The only person who can give you a label is you.
Sexual encounters with someone of the same sex do not make you gay or bisexual automatically. Many men and women who regard themselves as straight have same-sex encounters. It is part of being human.
If at some stage you find you need a label, by then you will be happy to assign yourself a label you feel comfortable with. Until then, just enjoy life.
2007-09-01 10:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by tentofield 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds more like you are just a little bi-curious. Possibly bisexual. There is a whole spectrum of sexuality. Have you heard of the Kinsey Scale? I forget which end is which, but it's a scale from 1 to 6. On one end is entirely straight, on the other is entirely gay. People can be anywhere on that spectrum. I really don't think you are a lesbian, you are much too attracted to men for that. I don't think you actually need to try being with someone physically to know if you're attracted to them. I think it's just something you should know.
2007-09-01 10:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by Dawn 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think your bi...welcome to the club! lol...As fo your last question, I don't think it's a required "thing". I knew from a young age that I was attracted to women just a strongly as men but never physically experienced being with a woman until the last 5 years or so. You know yourself better than anyone else.
2007-09-01 10:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have counselled some of my female students on this very subject and I will tell you pretty much what I will share with you. It is not unnatural to have such feelings and what it is, is curiosity and many go through it. But to act upon it, or persue it is a bad choice, and will lead to more bad choices. God made man and he made woman, there is a reason for that. And you can always pray about this. I see some of my students who fall into this lifestyle and it is sad. I know the "politically-correct" thing is to accept the "gay" lifestyle as normal, but I will not do that, it leads to a sad life and the possibilty of AIDS and an unstable relationship. I wish you the best.
2007-09-01 10:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by Euniquecee 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think everyone has, at one time or another, had some questions about their sexuality (whether they would admit it, or not, is another question). Just follow what you truly feel. There's nothing wrong with what you're feeling.
2007-09-01 10:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by hermit 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say your bisexual. Nothing wrong with it.
2007-09-01 10:21:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sith 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋