How to introduce brother with autism to my friends?

Question

Now that I'm in college it's a little harder to comfortably bring up the fact that my brother is different to my friends, especially guys!

How soon do I need to let a potential boyfriend know? And I need ideas of how to introduce them in person later on (if it gets that far which it might). I have never had a boyfriend, and so I am very worried about this. I am afraid that I will scare this guy off and he would not want to date me (I do know that I shouldn't worry because I wouldn't want to date anybody who doesn't accept my family anyway, but still it's scary!)

My brother is two years younger than me so is still in high school, is fairly verbal, but will sometimes say random stuff that makes no sense unless you've spent a lot of time with him.

Anyway my biggest concern is how to tell my friend without (a) sounding like I'm trying to start a pity-party or (b) getting him too weirded out?

Whether you're a sib yourself or just have ideas, thanks.

sorry if the question was worded confusingly. I guess I just need to know how to tell my friends beforehand and when that should happen. I don't want to just casually mention the fact like it's minor because you know it's pretty important. I ran out of room in the original question but also I need to know some tips for (if I end up having one) how to explain a boyfriend to my brother?

Answer 1

Honey, I understand what you mean. I know you love your brother and would never hurt his feelings..
I have an autistic nephew. He is 13.

Don't worry about what to say until you cross that bridge.
Some people don't know how to act or what to say when told you have an autistic brother, Right. I am sure you have had some bad comments in the past.
People that have not gone Thur this will not understand.
Some people are more compassionate than others.

When you meet a new guy or friends, when they ask about your family/brother, just be point blank honest and tell them that your brother was born with Autism. Tell them how proud you are of him and how well he is doing. Then move the conversation on. If they want to ask more questions, then let them, if you feel like answering them.

I bet somewhere down the line you will run into many other people that can share the same experiences you have, such as Autism.

Good Luck, faith

Answer 2

I think your priorities are messed up. I honestly thought this question was going to be about how you could make your brother more comfortable. But you're worried about your friends feeling 'weird'? Your brother didn't do anything wrong, there's no need to feel ashamed of him.
I'm sure your friends won't think it's as big a deal as you do. So just tell them ahead of time that your brother is autistic and sometimes says inappropriate things. Done!!

Answer 3

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Answer 4

who cares about your friends?.....your brother is the only one that matters.

If you're worried about your so called friends accepting your brother, then, it's time for you to get new friends asap.