my husband always find a way to fighr with me so he can take off in the car for hours he is even letting his mom ruin my kids life any advice
2007-09-01 09:40:27 · 14 answers · asked by thomas f 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It doesn't matter where he's going or what he's doing - only thing that matters is that he does it regularly and that he'd rather be anywhere than home, and you need to figure out why and see if you can't make it a place he enjoys being.
Don't fight back - just smile and nod. If you don't fight back - he won't have a reason to leave.
His mom can't ruin your kids unless you let her - it's not all on him. You're the one with the most influence on them - use it.
2007-09-01 10:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by pepper 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you and your husband had these kids not your mother in law, he picks fights and goes off for hours in the car perhaps he just need some alone time and dont know how to get it away from you . I would tell him to make sure he speaks to his mom about our children and stop butting in.
best of luck
2007-09-01 10:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My instant thought was "he's cheating". You could be sure to yank a spark plug so he can't go anywhere. OR - next time he tries to pick a fight with you, "seduce" him out of it. Be all sexy and loving and seductive - yeah, it'll be hard with him being a jerk, but you're a strong woman and you can do it. Every time he picks a fight, become seductive, maybe even tell him you like him better when he's like that. fight fire with fire - sure you could be all sweet and agreeable, but seductive will really catch him off guard.
About your kids - you are their mom, so you can stop you mil's interference if you really want to.
2007-09-01 10:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Ariana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have posted horrible things about your husband. I think instead of finding new things to expose about the man, I suggest strongly leaving him. Honestly. You have absolutely no respect from this man. I feel sorry for you but as with the other questions, you will only get the respect from your husband when you assert yourself and demand it. Get up off your knees. Stand up. Assert yourself.
2007-09-03 00:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's leaving you to go be with someone else, and he knows that by fighting with you, this is the way he can get out.
You need to either take the keys so he can't leave
Or
You need to follow him.
I'll bet you're not going to like what you see :{
2007-09-01 10:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I filed for divorce, took the kids and am 8 years happy! You can do it too! (he ended up marring his best friends ex wife- the relationship he was running to everytime he drove off!)
2007-09-01 13:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would I think if my husband did that? I would wonder who he's seeing when he takes off.
2007-09-01 09:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would no longer be my husband and he'd find out what I thought of him, his excuses and his mother.
2007-09-01 10:34:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think he is cheating and no longer wants to be in the marriage.
2007-09-01 09:59:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my ex did this to me and left the house for hours, he was cheating on me. its just a way they can justify the cheating, and blame it all on u.
2007-09-01 10:24:08 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋