2007-09-01 08:46:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What things did you do before ya'll fell in love? dates, make out sessions,etc? It sounds childish but it wouldn't hurt to try.
2007-09-01 08:57:28 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Kimchi♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find that when that feeling of falling in love all over again overtakes me it's almost always when I least expect it. The last time it happened was when my husband was working on his truck. I walked out in the garage, and just stood there watching him. He didn't know I was there. I stood there for quite a while just watching him. He was trying to figure out what was wrong with the truck. I could see the "wheels turning" in his head. It was how he talked to himself. The patience he possessed. His intelligence.
In every day life I tend to forget some of these endearing qualities. My advice would be to slow down, and let his true personality show through to you.
Simple, I know.
2007-09-01 09:18:23 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie Mae 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe you can.
After watching a kinda scary movie last night called "Vacancy" this couple who were at odds with each other, worked things out.
If we all could just remember how we felt before the marriage and try to recapture what we did together and not let things like the bills, the kids, the job, etc. interfere with it, we have a great chance of falling back in love, instead of just loving.
On a personal level, I believe falling in love or being in love is the beginning of a deep love that is lasting. Falling in love is just the prerequisite of the whole experience.
2007-09-01 08:59:34 · answer #3 · answered by makeitright 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best way to do that I think is to remember what it was that made you fall in love with him in the beginning. Remember how you felt when he first told you that he loved you, and how secure you felt when you were in his arms. Those things are still there, chances are, they have just been lying dormant and need to be awaken. Good luck- I'm all for someone wanting to fall in love again instead of giving up!
2007-09-01 11:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough question, but I understand what you're going through. It's not an easy fix. when you've been in a relationship for a while you're inevitably going to hit a rut. Marriage is work. And it's not one sided.
Probably the biggest advice....and hardest one to actually do is to show your love through actions without expecting anything in return. This can really.....really wear on you if your husband does not appreciate what you're doing for him.
Do things for him that you know he would like. Chances are that you know him just as well or better than he knows himself. So I can't tell you what those things are. But if you make an effort every day to do things for him to show how much you care.....chances are that he will eventually start to respond.
The hardest part for you is going to be not getting mad when you do something for him and you don't feel he's even noticed or is appreciative.
You should also of course always have the lines of communication open and express how you feel without placing any blame on him. Let him know what you're concerns are and try to come up with ideas together about how you can get out of the rut and stay there. And put your plan into action. Like I said, it is literally work. But it is definately worth it.
Best of luck to you.
2007-09-01 09:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by nosbigibby 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This one will take effort from both of you. Think about why you fell in love to begin with. Each of you did things for the other that make you feel loved, this built over time.
Couples get so involved with everyday life, real life problems, raising kids, etc. They forget to make time for each other as a couple. So, make taking time to "date" part of your regular routine.
There are some good books available about meeting each other's emotional needs.
"Fall in love, Stay in love" by W. Harley
http://marriagebuilders.com/
"The Five Love Languages" by Chapman
2007-09-01 09:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by joyh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband will need to participate with this.He will have to work hard to do the things to/for you that he did to win you over in the first place(when you were dating).this isn't hard to do if you already love each other.If you both make each other top priority again thats really all there is to it.EASY
2007-09-01 11:28:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a trip to Jamaica
Sign up and take one of those fun Adult Education classes. Try something new in the boudoir!!
Go camping together, and make sure you sleep in the nude.
Go down memory lane, looking at old wedding photos, and pictures of when you two were dating.
Put the laundry machine on spin cycle, hoist yourself on it, and let him do the rest;)
2007-09-01 09:10:40 · answer #8 · answered by ~*LilDebbie=BigDeborah*~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't stand these questions. How are people supposed to tell you how to fall in love with a man again? It's not as easy as 1 2 3.
If you have issues in your marriage, try marriage counseling.
2007-09-01 08:58:23 · answer #9 · answered by MiltonGuy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
change is the only way change things about you and ask him to change little thing keep in mind he wont want to but tell him how you feel and tell him you are willing to change for him it will take time but make you love him more
2007-09-01 10:00:44 · answer #10 · answered by Jmap 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋