I mean its what it is at first that counts (to other people) don't you think?
2007-09-01 08:27:22 · 14 answers · asked by little_kitty 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Everyone judges by first impression... anyone who says they don't is a barefaced liar.
What counts is what you do after you make that judgement. I may not like someone on a first impression but I'll always give them the benefit of the doubt and make a more informed judgement call after meeting them a few times.
2007-09-01 08:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by moddy almondy 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't agree it's unfair, but generally I like to reserve judgement.
I think it's not smart to go by first impression, but it's certainly fair.
By the way, I have rarely been wrong about someone who has given me a bad first impression, maybe once or twice out of the thousands of people I've met.
2007-09-01 08:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by spongeworthy_us 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is fair. You can learn all you need to know in the first 3 minutes.
The person's looks, dress, speaking voice, courtesy or self involvement, body language, eye contact, distance kept from you in the conversation, energy level, grooming or lack thereof, , interests, education level can be surmised from vocabulary and lengths of sentences and continuity and presentation of ideas. Often information about career, club memberships, marital status, children are exchanged in a first meeting. I have made my decision to continue the relationship or not in that amount of time. I always go by first impressions as they are the most accurate. You have no history between you to color the way you interpret the data presented. It is as objective as you will ever be with that person.
2007-09-01 08:38:25 · answer #3 · answered by Nora 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between having a first impression and over time learning the difference and judging and deciding permanently based on that impression.
Think about it..
2007-09-01 09:01:22 · answer #4 · answered by kelly4u2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am in HR so i really shouldnt be judging anyone on the first impression, but even knowing all the info that i do and being a professional i cant help but do it. i realize that its a natural reaction to judge people on the first impression. i dont think it makes you a bad person, i think what makes you shallow is if you then give them no chance to prove you otherwise. My first impresssion will never close my mind on what i think about anyone.
2007-09-01 08:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anna 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a constant battle for me not to judge people. But I have found that if you hang around that person a little, your first impression will change. It just takes us humans a little while to look for the good that comes from the heart and not the head.
2007-09-01 08:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by victor 7707 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont think its fair, but its reality.
Look at a job interview for example, its the bosses first impression of you that will get you in the door.
Also when you meet someone for the first time, its that eye contact and first impressions of how they dress that will make you want to talk to them more.
Once you have gotten in the door so to speak, then I think its personality that gets you as far as you want to go.
2007-09-01 08:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by todamnlovable 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Apparently it only takes five seconds to make an impression on people when you first meet them. What can you possibly KNOW in five seconds? Nada , nothing , just your expectations and who are you to judge anyone ?
I made that mistake far too many times when I was younger and missed out on some wonderful friendships that got revisited later on. First impressions are usually wrong.
2007-09-01 08:34:24 · answer #8 · answered by Lizzy-tish 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
some time certain people rub your fur the wrong way in the first meting but once you get to know the person you be surprise that the person is the opposite of what we think
2007-09-01 08:44:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I do, it sounds bad, but I'm usually right... I don't base it on appearance so much though, it's more on what they say or how they say things within the first hour or so of meeting them... but sometimes I've gone back and been wrong... but I do and I am usually right
2007-09-01 11:49:29 · answer #10 · answered by Fatima K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋