I believe my wife may be suffering from depression and/or hormonal imbalance. Although we have stressful and busy lives, I don't think this accounts for the extreme mood swings and absent sex drive. We were discussing the lack of sex in our marriage when I brought this up, and she got furious, said I was shifting the blame away from myself, and would't talk to me for a couple days. This has gone on since she got pregnant with our son (now 1) and I really think things could possibly improve with treatment, but I don't know how to approach this successfully. (I'm doing as much dish washing, diaper changing, and laundry folding as I possibly can, please no suggestions that I help around the house.) I need help, divorce is looming on the horizon.
2007-09-01 08:27:02 · 4 answers · asked by Killer B 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My suggestion is to have someone other than yourself address this situation with her. Her mother your mother a clergyman, etc. Your wife sounds depressed and needs some therapy. Good Luck.
2007-09-01 09:16:26 · answer #1 · answered by llllll_amanda_lllllll 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, as some famous Dr. out there likes to say "the only person's behavior you can change is your own." So I'd suggest breaching the subject as wanting to change yourself. Let her know that you're going to start going to counseling for yourself and that you would be overjoyed if she would join you to help you work on your personal issues in the marriage. After seeing you step up, maybe she'd be willing to follow suit.
Personally, I got a lot out of Dr. Laura's "10 Stupid Things Couples Do To Mess Up Their Relationships"
2007-09-01 15:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Even after trying to discuss things w/ her and if she still refuses to believe that it's just you. If you are helping around the house a lot, your next step is to find a marriage counselor and let your wife know that you are insterested in seeing this counselor. If she says no, go anyways!!! This will show her that you are willing to do anything to get things back on track, even if it means going by yourself. Eventually, she should start going too.....Take the 1st step!!! GL!
2007-09-01 15:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by Aja H 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
COMMUNICATION.
Marriage cannot be solved in one conversation. It might take a few tears and maybe screaming to get those flood gates open to communication again.
She just might not feel in the 'mood' with a baby, working, trying to live a 'normal life' baby spit all over, smelling dirty diapers etc.
Get away with her for a few days (get grandparents over, they love that). Treat her life your wife, not just the mother of your child.
hope this helps
2007-09-01 15:46:15 · answer #4 · answered by vegface 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋