I am currently married to a man that decided over a year ago to go back and live with his mother. I have been alone now for over a year. He just went through De-tox to get off of drugs and alcohol and still wants to remain at home with her. He dislikes my chihuahua/rat terrier and seems to havea problem coming home. I have met anoher man who would do anything for me and absolutely loves me unconditionally. We just recently started back at church and I love him. Do I just walk away or do I give him more time to work through his differences. Desperate
2007-09-01 08:23:56 · 9 answers · asked by carole bostic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't jump into anything with a new man until you've resolved your feelings (and marital situation) for your husband. Nobody can tell you what's right in this situation, you just need to follow your heart. Give yourself some time, make some pros and cons lists if it helps you look at it more clearly. You'll know what's right.
2007-09-01 08:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by RF 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't spent any more time being desperate. I would divorce a husband who would rather live with his mother, no matter what else was going on in his life. If he gets his act together he will make a good second husband for somebody else. If he doesn't he will live with his mother forever and good luck to them. I would not rush into anything else though. Give yourself time to adjust to your new situation before jumping into a new marriage. If the new guy is really the man of your dreams he will still be around in a year and you can decide then. Enjoy your life. That's all you have to do. Nothing else.J.J.
2007-09-01 15:35:21 · answer #2 · answered by Jungle Jan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I think it it would be better for you to decide on what's right and fair not just for you but for the 2 men involved.
If you love your husband, then give him more time and support him...and forget this other guy.
If you love this other guy, then divorce your husband first before having any kind of relationship with him.
You have to choose between the 2 of them so you don't make your life complicated.
As from what I understand, the other guy is better than your husband.... but set things straight first before you make any commitment to him.
2007-09-01 15:33:32 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, ask yourself ;
"Can I be part of his problem?"
If he's reluctant to move back, it could be so.
At any rate, you say "I love him" about this other guy.
The first marriage is over.
Hanging around to give support, if you can help,
might be the ethical thing to do, for a while.
But if you love some-one else, it's over.
2007-09-01 15:35:06 · answer #4 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get a lawyer and file for divorce on grounds of abandoment. Don't start anything with this new man until you get the final decree of divorce.
2007-09-01 15:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would highly suggest counseling. If you've recently started going back to church perhaps ask the pastor for some counseling. I'm sure he would have some good insight.
2007-09-01 15:29:11 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley Sue 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to do some soul searching and ask yourself what you really want. ask the Lord for guidance. one thing for certain, you need to end one relationship before you start another.
2007-09-01 15:32:16 · answer #7 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't vows mean anything to people anymore?
2007-09-01 15:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You were abandoned a year ago. What are you waiting for?
File the papers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-01 15:28:21 · answer #9 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋