How long should a man wait to go out dating after separating from his wife?

Answer 1

There is no set time for this, each man is different and will need a different length of 'time out'; you do need to take time to re-build yourself after the breakup of your marriage, let go of the hurt, let go of the bitterness, all that baggage that would poison any new potential relationship... You must be happy in yourself to make a success of your future! So after such a trauma as marriage breakup, it takes a lot of work. But take courage, life is here to enjoy, just waiting for you! Shine!

Answer 2

If you are legally separated from your wife (and you don't actually need a document for this in the UK - unless you are stuck living in the same house because of financial reasons) then you can date whenever you feel it is right. I think I waited about 3 hours after separating from my first husband and about 2 days after separating from my second!! It is right that you could do with some time living on your own, but that doesn't mean you can't have fun!!

People usually say that you are still cheating if you are still married because that is either the way the law works where they live or because of some religious reason. In the UK it does not work that way, but as someone else points out, no need to rub your ex's face in it and keep any dating away from the kids (if you have any) for a long time yet.

Answer 3

He should wait until he feels ready. I knew a man whose wife died one week and he was out on the town the following looking for a new mate- then two weeks later he moved in with the woman across the road- he obviously felt that he needed that at that point- when you feel that you can cope with a new relationship then you do it. However, having said that there is no real rush either is there? You can have some time to gather your thoughts and rediscover you and that way you will meet someone much more naturally and maybe then it will work out for the best.

Answer 4

I don't think you need to set a definite time. That said, make sure you don't drop out of socialising completely - just because you don't have a wife around all the time.

If you've got close friends around that you spend a lot of time with already, loneliness shouldn't be a problem - Dating is just one way to make sure you don't drop out of the social scene.

As for when it's right to actually become dating - some point, you'll come across a woman you do want to see on a more than casual basis. That's when it's the right time.

P.S. Just make sure she's not the wife's sister.

Answer 5

I waited until the Divorce was Over Legally ! Otherwise Some women will think that you might go back to your Ex.
Also to Most women - you are Still Married - Just Separated !!!

Careful in the beginning you are on the re-bound ! Take Your Time - No Hurry !

Answer 6

If you are separated in the legal sense you can date whenever you feel it's right. Especially if the divorce is already in the works.

For the most part the court couldn't really care less what either of you are doing unless it has a direct bearing on the lifestyle of the children.

Question is, when do you feel it's right?

Answer 7

If you are just separated and not divorced, you should not be dating.

If you are divorced, you can date,but I would not look for a new relationship for a year at least. Chances are if you do it sooner, you'll just get into a rebound relationship. Figure out exactly what qualities you are interested in, be specific. Only have long-term relationships with women who fit into those requirements. If she doesn't fit your list, don't compromise and make excuses for her. She isn't a bad person;she just istn' the right one for you.

Hopefully, by being more thoughtful about exactly what type of person you want, you'll have a better chance at making a second relationship last.

Answer 8

You and your wife have been separated is that right If i were you i wouldnt rush into any thing so soon you dont know if you and your wife will get back together. just relax and take it easy.
best of luck

Answer 9

depends on the situation. Did you leave her? Is she broken hearted? if so then you need to wait for at least 6months. If she left you and is doing fine then go for it, just keep things very light hearted, dont get involved in anything steady or commitment ladened :)

Answer 10

I also think you should wait to date until the divorce is final... First of all, you should be reflecting on your marriage, possibly children (if any), learning how to deal with life by your self without trying to fill the void with anyone who comes along, and dealing with the emotions of divorce.

After a marriage or long term relationship ends, you should take time to get to know yourself without being dependent on anyone else... Learn how to spend days, weeks, months, a year? just getting to know yourself again and learning who you are without the spouse.

It's been one year, my divorce is final now and I'm just now beginning to contemplate dating. I've enjoyed learning how to be self-sufficient and have focused on my daughter. Let's face it, divorce is heartwrenching and many emotions come into play - you owe it to yourself and whoever you choose to date to do so without the ghost of another.