is it always necessary to talk about problems that your trying to get through with someone?

Question

i generally dont like letting people know what im going through. i see it almost as a weakness. i feel that why would you want to hang out with someone when all they do is talk about their problems. i dont know if it is right to talk about your problems or not. I have a hard time trusting people sometimes too and i dont want the whole world to know about my problems i mean everything about me i like to keep personal. i mean i almost feel like someone would use what i say against me.

Answer 1

It is OK if you really trust that person, but I do not share all my problems with anyone other than my therapist. That's what they are there for.

Answer 2

Not necessary always. Not necessary to share with many. But sharing helps, if you think you cannot find a better solution by yourself. While sharing or discussing it is possible that you yourself may get the answer, even if the other person is not able to help much. The psychology behind this is that in the process of explaining the problem you get more clarity and better understanding and therefore able find the answer. Be selective . Some kind of problems can be shared with some kind of friends and not with all. If the person with whom you share is reliable you need not feel that he will use it against you. Much will depend the seriousness of the problem and the person involved. I presume that you are not going to ask a solution for a legal offence committed .

Answer 3

I only talk about my problems with someone I trust. I have a few real good friends. Of course, my friends and I have fun and talk about other things as well. That's how friendships develop. There are some things I work out for myself.
If you are really concerned, see a therapist you get along with.
I would keep in mind, however, that it is doubtful that anything you are going through is outside of the realm of human experience. Other people may make a big deal of it, but that comes from their limited view of the world. In other words, I would hope that you would have little to fear, unless you are in politics. ;)

Answer 4

(A little paranoid) I don't think it is necessary to talk about problems all the time, however, when I want someone's opinion on how they would handle something I talk. I love giving out my opinions and sometimes I can actually solve one of my problems by advising somebody else. I used to have trust issues with people when I was younger and I lived a secretive life but then my life became very public and I found out the more I tried to hide, the more I was exposed. Now my life is of no importance to anyone but me. I no longer "hide" and it is such a wonderful freedom! I can make a mistake, admit it and guess what? ....NOBODY cares! except me, of course!

Answer 5

Whilst it is not nessisary, it can be benificial to say it out LOUD even to YOURSELF. Or write it in a book, so that you get it OUT. Talking things through is a way of SEEING things differently, from a different perspective. Often, once we have taken the STING out of the problem things just kind of show themselves and solutions appear.

The best moments are when you get to SEE your own way through something. Talking to a friend, or a therapist, or a higher power, or a mirror just helps you to PROCESS what ever it is you are going through.

So, how ever you choose to do it, LET IT OUT. You will feel better for it.

Answer 6

Its good to keep to urself, but the more u keep the more u feel the burden by not letting it out. But its ok though... For now for myself i used to like to tell my probs to my cousin, but end up... yeah it was the most hot topic amongst them, so i stop and now, most of all i just keep it myself too.

But when i really cant take it, i just... hint to my mom and asked her opinion, i find that, if its hard to trust someone, than just keep to urself... serious thats the best way.

Its not necessary though... i think i do that due to, im a person that, loves to worry so much....

Answer 7

I would only do that with a very close friend. But don't do it all the time. People will soon get sick of hearing all about your problems.

Answer 8

I M REALLY A SAME PERSON LIKE U!!!!!!!!
R U A CAPRICORN???????????
coz capri's r d only people just by their sun sign who want to keep all their secrets as secrets and dont want any one else to knw it and find their small small mistakes as their weakness's so its just inside us!!!!!!!!
i think so.........