I have a friend that brags and tries to act modest at the same time?

Question

ok so i have a friend and she brags but tries to be modest at the same time. like at first she would say "gosh im so bad at math" and we would say no you arent ______ you are smart. and she says "yah i guess im smarter than most people" and she chews with her mouth open. she just gets on my nerves bcuz she is such a showoff but tries to be modest just so we wont say "goshh_______ is a show off" what should i do when she does that?i think she just wants us to compliment her like "no your not bad at math" i just want to say " yeah your bad at math"

Answer 1

The first part sounds like she is the kind of person who fishes for compliments. When she baits up, don't bite. If she says she's bad at math again, don't tell her what she wants to hear, tell her something basic like.."So study more." Will responses like that, she can't be upset with you, and she will most likely stop fishing.

Answer 2

I know EXACTLY what you mean here!!!

Just to show you something about life, I'll tell you that I'm substantially older than you (I'm in my 50s) and the friend (like yours) who does that bragging/modest routine is in his 60s and let me tell you...it STILL bugs the everlivingdaylights out of me EVERY single time he does it.

He likes to brag about all the contacts he's made through his various jobs, etc...and when he helped get one of my sons a job, I was thanking him and he did that "aw shucks" routine...I saw RED!

So, do what I do...blow it off and just IGNORE her when she does that, cause I think you can see, from my example...they NEVER quit that stupid stuff, no matter HOW old they get!

Hope this helped even a little.

Answer 3

So say that to her then! But say it in a way so it sounds teasing/joking. My friends and i do that to each other all the time, its a laugh! XD
Or maybe she really is a bit insecure about stuff and just likes to hear the validation? (Admit it, everyone likes to hear ppl say nice stuff about them).
As for agreeing with you, well, some people are just like that.
Maybe you could ask 'Well why did you ask if you know?" (in a nice way!)

And chewing with her mouth open...well while she talking just say. "Stop! Swallow...continue (^^)" i have to say that lots to one particular friend of mine! XD Either that or i point at her mouth and tell her i hate 'sea food'.

Its hard to tell how to react without actually hearing her tone of voice though ;.;

Answer 4

First, she says negative things about herself for someone will stick up for her. And say for example NO YOU ARE SO PRETTY! Just for she can here it. So next time she says, I look fat in these jeans, or I'm not good at this, etc. Just ignore it. She's just doing it for she can hear No! You are definatly not! Your so good at math!
She has a lower self esteem and she needs to bring up her confidence by people telling her of her 'perfections'

Answer 5

it sounds like this girl needs a real slap in the face to give her that reality check she's been lacking. just explain it to her like
" wow that was funny. you just contradicted yourself. you're bad at math but smarter than most people!" just bring up the issue in a polite and almost jokingly way that will get her thinking but not hurt your friendship. do it before some stranger says it to her and she gets seriously offended.

Answer 6

She sounds insecure, constantly needing reassurance. Which is sad. In private ask her about it, if you think you can. Or just say, "yeah your bad at math"

Answer 7

Don't comment. When she says something like that, don't respond. Let her keep talking and don't boost her ego. Change the subject away from her, she will soon find out that you don't want to talk about her.

Answer 8

My advice is--->get away from happy people that are confused. It sounds like your friend has a split personality.

Answer 9

maybe she has low self esteem and needs people to compliment her all the time

Answer 10

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