Why don't you believe in marriage?

Question

Just to the people who don't believe in marriage.

I already know why people believe in marriage, I am one of them so I don't want to hear those responses.

Answer 1

I believe it exists, but beyond that what's to believe in?

I don't believe married people are happier than unmarried.

I do believe married people live longer than unmarried but I sure don't pretend to understand why.

I don't believe married people necessarily are more committed, stable, capable of childrearing or more faithful to their partner.

Answer 2

Great question. I personally don't believe in marriage. I'm 23 years old and I have seen a lot happen around me. A lot of my aunts are divorced, my grandma was divorced, there are more friends I can name that are divorced compared to those that are married. Marriage to me, at my age, is just something I don't think about. I have a girlfriend of 3 years that I have a 20 month old son with. Although things happened backwards for me (having a child before marriage) I still don't see that need to get married 'just because you have a child'. I have also seen SO many young people get married because they think it is the right thing to do and later realize they married and weren't truly in love with each other. So many have divorced. My girlfriend has brought up the issue of getting married, many times, but I think I'd personally be marrying for the wrong reason (because we have a child). I also think that, like others say, marriage is just a piece of paper. People don't take marriage seriously as back then. I could go on and on...

Answer 3

I was married once, for ten years, too
I don't believe in marriage for the rest of the world to see.
Marriage isn't what it used to be. It's a complicated legality that married people use for a license to fornicate and join accounts at the bank.
You had some kind of motive behind asking this question. You want some justification from a small group of people and received a bunch of testimony in it's behalf. Take a look at the nation's divorce rate and you will get a better understanding of why some people, like me, don't believe in marriage. It didn't work for me once and I will not cling to the fairy tale that some day I will meet my Mrs. Right. She isn't out there. She does not exist. If she did, I would honor the institution of marriage and wed with her.

Answer 4

I use to, but then I went through a really horrible break-up with my long term fiancee right before our wedding. I had a lot of thinking to do, and I guess I don't believe in marriage because I feel that the people today just don't understand the commitment and sacracy of it. It isn't honored the way it should be. Too many people rush into it and then end up in a messy divorce, many of them with children who have to go through it, too. Granted, children are better off if their unhappy parents separate, I just don't feel like marriage is something I could handle knowing that it might not be something my groom could handle, too.

Answer 5

I see nothing wrong with people getting married. But I personally don't believe in it because it's a ceremony that was created back when people's life span only went to the age of 30. It was not created with romantic ideals. A big reason was to unite families with promises of land and/or wealth. The women stayed with the men for many reasons, fear, loyalty, feeling of duty, it was like a business transaction, not love. Nowadays people take this tradition and try to cram romantic ideals into it. Stuff they see from movies and television. It has nothing do with not wanting to commit or be responsible. Signing a piece of paper does not make me have more value for my boyfriend. Don't get me wrong, I believe in being with one person and settling down and having children. But I think it's all about the work and love and effort you put into a relationship that counts. Not signing a paper and spending thousands on a reception.
Thats just my opinion.

Answer 6

I personally don't think people were made to be monogamous. I think marriages happen because it's expected. Not all people are meant to be married and it is not for everyone. Some marry out of convenience, pregnancy, feeling of obligation, family expectations, religious convictions. I am married and if I had to do it all over again, I would still want my son but not be married. Maybe have a boyfriend but not get married.

Answer 7

I feel it is just a piece of paper- you can have the same exact relationship with someone & do all the same things without being married. All marriage is is a piece of paper stating you are committed to each other till death or divorce. There are definitly some financial benefits (lower insurance, taxes, health insurance etc) to being legally married but that's about the only reason I'd do it.

Answer 8

Personally for people that live together without being married and are having sex before marriage are just playing being married. And unlike someone posted marriage is NOT a piece of paper. It's a lifelong commitment made between 2 people, it's just really sad that some people have bought into the lies that people have said about marriage being a piece of paper and placing such little value on marriage.

Answer 9

Because when you say I do he will do for a minute until you have been married for the first year and a half of marriage then it over

Answer 10

It depends how you see things, organised religion is a fraud, therefore anything preach by them to me is something to be wary of. What is marriage? What is the difference btwn being married and not? Tax discount, other than notthing, everyone says commitment, but being in a relationship is a commitment, what does the paper do to make things different, nothing.

In my oppinion marriage is an out dated institution that contributes nothing to the development of a relationship, the people involve are more important than the paper, its just an excuse to take each other for granted!!!!!!!!!!