Is it Possible to Love Someone, Without Being Sexually Attracted?

Question

This Question has Been Asked Here Before.

Under Singles & Dating.

blapath, Looks Like this is the Pivotal Distinction.

Melon, Love and Lust?

Wayne, Not too Long.

Thanks K.

Answer 1

yup you can...

Answer 2

That all depends on what you are calling love.

Some forms of love have nothing to do with sex.

On the other hand, as a Man, if I see an attractive female and we hit it off I know on some level I will want to have sex with her. I also know from intimate talks with women the feeling is mutual.

Is it possible? Yes.

Is it traditional? No.

I have had some relationships that lasted only minutes longer than the sex, and; I don't think I am the exeption. And if you try and be discreet about this fact and slow things down, you are likely to insult the person you are with making them think you believe they are a whore. There is no way to say, been there done that, and have them hear anything other than you think I am a whore. They yell at you and bam the attraction is gone, social, sexual, all of it. Game over.

So, Yes and No.

Answer 3

Of course, family...friends. But I suppose when you wrote this you were thinking of the opposite sex. Passion comes and goes, whether love is there determines if (when it goes), the relationship will stay or be diminished.
Love at first sight, in my opinion should be correctly revised to "Lust at first sight". Sure it exists, but it's physical attraction, isn't that understood?
Yes, it is possible, but I also want to make a note that I generally believe that a man and a woman cannot be in a relationship without EITHER one at SOME point in time being sexually attracted to the other.

Answer 4

I would say, yes. Love is a very subjective experience. And, I don't think level of sexual attraction can be used to define or qualify the existence or level of love. Whether a couple can be happy and content without vehement sexual feelings for one another depends on those two people. The bases of people's relationships vary. If sexual attraction is non-existent, there would simply be some form of "attraction" that superseded "sexual attraction"....I don't think any "psychologically normal" measuring stick should apply to this subjective experience.

Answer 5

Good Morning Greg,

To correctly answer this question you need to define love.

The word love, in English, means many different things to different people. It is a conglomerate meaning word that takes it roots from the dozens of different languages that have chosen the word love as a translated equivalent.

In one language, and I don't remember which one, there are more than 60 descriptive of different types of love that are lumped together in English as the one word love. Among those descriptive there are 30 plus that are non-sexual in nature and are used to describe everything from appreciation of the rain to the awe of a rainbow to the emotional bond between family. Even those that describe family are broken down into sub-categories that attribute the strength and position of that person in the individuals non-sexual bond for the other person.

As has been mentioned in other answers to your question there are bonds that are beyond what are described as physical bonds. Lumping all of the familial bonds together we find a common link. That being our common unity of support for one another as a common group.

Some will aske "And what of friendship?" In our daily lives we have casual aquaintenance, work associates, and close friends. But then there is a class of friends that are "best friends" They become what most people call their "extended family" and express their "familial love" for them as well.

Then of course when we think we have it all covered, we have that one very special "BEST" friend.

That "BEST" friend is a closer relationship than any other that man has ever written about. There are stories and poems about friendship that describe this connection. But no one can put into words those feelings that pass between "best" friends. I heard a description of a "best" friend as being "more than a brother less than a lover or spouse." A "best" friend friendship is far deeper than any experience a man or woman can have and remain individuals.

How much is it worth? A "best" friend friendship is beyond priceless as you can quantify priceless as more than $xxxxxxxxxxx.xx

You see a "best" friend friendship is given without expectation of repayment and hence has no price only intrinsic value.

I am fortunate to have had one such person for nearly 40 years. And yes I can truly say I love him as a best friend.

The obvious answer to your question is yes it is possible to love someone, without being sexually attracted to the person. It happens all the time every day.

Answer 6

Ha ha, all these people are answering with answers like "yes, my mom" and other family members - but I don't think that's what you are asking.
I think that also you can love someone as a life partner/husband/wife (etc) without being sexually attracted to them. It comes from respect, appreciation, emotional connectedness and other things. Different people have different sexual appetites, and often relationships are easier when sex isn't there to complicate it. I've seen a few advertisements for celibate dating.
When people are looking for a partner to spend their lives with, they are looking for connectedness on many different levels. Sex doesn't necessarily have to be one of them. Unfortunately our society puts so much value on the sexual aspect that people feel inadequate or strange if that's not the most important thing to them.

Answer 7

Sure. I met my hubby online and we did not see each others' snaps until after falling in love. It was not a sexual attraction. Love is a feeling between two people. Lust is a chemical reaction. They do go together but there are times when one can see past sex and lust and yet love someone....

Answer 8

I may have answered it before, too! But briefly - YES. Regard they way we love children, our parents, and so on - and even sometimes our most valued mentors. There are not enough words in English for all the kinds of love there is. Other languages do have. I believe Ancient Greek was one. Anyway, conversely I reckon there can be sexual attraction without love - though the young or the sneaky will falsely protest love in its pursuit, or as an excuse. What fun! BUT what JOY love is!

Answer 9

In the truest sense no love is lost for sex if it is not attributed to physical relations only . Love is only and all about feelings of mind and soul . Sexual attraction is all but physical . Psychologist may not agree but the greatest bond of love on earth is between the mother and child and no sex is involved. Actually attraction of sex and attraction of love are quite different propositions. Feelings of love may sometimes cause Sexual attraction but as we all know , all sexual acts are not essentially the outcome of love. To sum up , love is the infinite , the eternity ...... and sex is only the occasional effect of love.

Answer 10

At the beginning sex might not be in someones head yet, but probably later on when the person feels comfortable, or it might start this attraction naturally when love is consuming your whole body. Most think of sex first, and then love, but it doesn't have to be the same in every situation.

Answer 11

yes you can love some one and not be attracted to them sexually. to many equate sex and love which not the real case. you can sex with out love. But the best sex is a by-product of love . You can love him and not want him. that may be for now but over time those feelings may change!! you only dated 2 weeks good relationships take alot longer..

When you denied it were you honest with YOURSELF not her. she doesn't matter. Do you have feelings for him and you don't want to persue it because you think sex won't be what you expect. don't expect sex let it happen with the relationship you will be amazed the difference