why does my boyfriend sign up for every singles website he can find and then never talks to anyone.he never subscribes to them.he doesnt know that i know about them but he lies when i ask him if he is actively searching for someone else.he says no.then he gets mad because i asked.when i give him the oppertunity to get rid of me and start his search for someone else he tells me he only wants me and then he tries to fix everything.but it only lasts for a few weeks and then we go through it again.is there something wrong with me or is it him.help im going crazy here trying to figure this out.please tell me why he does this and what i can do to stop him and fix us.
2007-09-01 02:24:45 · 15 answers · asked by pepermentpati 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The Male Conspiracy requires, as one of its tenets, that we try and drive as many females crazy as possible. He is probably only following orders.
2007-09-01 02:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, first, it's not men that are so confusing but humans..men and women. Secondly it sounds like your boyfriends getting mad because he's up to something and doesn't like being confronted about it because it doesn't know what to say - hence you get the frustrated anger.
If he is on these sights it might be because he desperately needs some kind of attention, and wants girls to look at this profile and contact him, all the while deriving some kind of satisfaction that he's wanted in some way by other members of the opposite sex. Or, he is looking and fantasizing about other women but perhaps not acting on anything. Either way it doesn't sound that healthy.
One way to handle this is that if he doesn't see anything wrong with his signing up for these sites then perhaps you should sign up for them too, just to see how he feels about it. If there isn't anything wrong with his doing it then he shouldn't have any problem with you doing it. If he does have a problem then you need to think about the relationship and if he will keep treating you like this.
2007-09-01 02:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by jimstock60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is not into you but that he is too scared to leave you. So he stays with you but flirts with the idea of talking to other people. Eventually he will go through with it.
I would advise you to break up with him. This will give him time to get his head straight. He needs to figure out what he wants and he wont be able to do that while he is with you.
2007-09-01 02:32:50 · answer #3 · answered by Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, There is something wrong with you !!!! Bf is searching thru singles sites looking for someone else and you're still thinking you can keep him. Don't you recognize ITS OVER even when it hits you in the FACE ???
WAKE UP !!! Find someone who cares and get over it !!
Good Luck
2007-09-01 02:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since I'm a man & this is my opinion I'd say for you to check out single sight's too. Give him a taste of his own medicine. Who knows you might find someone who is a lot more caring than the one you are with now.
2007-09-01 02:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by wiz55rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a guy.. well if you already talked to him, he must know you're suspicious. He is trying to find something, you know that, so maybe he's just playing around with your head.. guys like mind games it seems.. so if he really wants you, why would he try finding someone else. try telling him just that you know what hes doing.. try having a conversation with him, and tell him if he doesnt stop.. then you're gone.. then he'll tell you whats maybe going on..
2007-09-01 02:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's practicing to become an avid liar and cheater. You're the one who should be looking for someone else.
2007-09-01 02:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are very, very simple...we want our cake and we want to eat it also. in other words, our sole motivation in life is to get laid. even when we have a wife or girlfriend, all we want is to have sex with someone else, even if it is just fantasy sex. also, we want to be WANTED by other women because it makes us feel good even if we never have a chance of sex with any of them. and we do NOT like being questioned or caught with our pants down, so to speak.
hope that helps...
2007-09-01 02:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would just play him at his own game...dont contact him...let him do all the chasing...if he really wants you he will come to you...if he doesnt act like hes bothered then move on...sounds like hes not sure what he wants..you playing it cool and acting like your not really fussed will make his mind up..he will probably come chasing you.
2007-09-01 02:32:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably for the same reason that women are nosy.
2007-09-01 02:32:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋