Ok I want a punk/skater look and my mom saids she wants me to be a girly girly. I hate pink *sorry pink lovers I do* also I'm a mostly sad person and girly clothes drive me crazy. She always picks out my clothes even more now and Im 14! So how should I tell my mom I want to pick out my own clothes?
2007-09-01 02:16:27 · 9 answers · asked by penguinrockout 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Perhaps you can go shopping together with your mom - you pick your clothes, but your mom can say "no" to any particular item (she's the one who gets to pay for them after all).
2007-09-01 02:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by cyranonew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away frrom the punk/skater look. YOu'll regret it later when you find the types you attract. Stop harping about pink, there are many other colors that look pretty darn good. If you set aside your rebellion for a while and calmly discuss your selections, I'm sure you can both compromise on some very nice looking clothes.
2007-09-01 09:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brianna, I do understand how you feel. But please do me a favor - don't go wierd on us. It's ok to adopt a few things that have the look you're interested in, but what you want to consider is being taken seriously. Most people will look, stare, comment on someone who is dressed compeletly out of the norm. It's natural. But it's not necessarily a good thing. You want people to feel like they can approach you and talk with you. If you are dressed so differently, they think you're doing drugs and committing crimes. It's natural too.
Do yourself a big favor, don't wear pink, that is ok, don't wear frilly things, that's ok too. I'm not your most feminine person either. But do dress to impress and be approachable.
Maybe what you could suggest to your mom is to have a fashion show with magazines. Buy a bunch of magazines with clothes in them that you like. Have your mom do the same. Cut out all the pictures of things you like and have your mom do the same. Play cards with the pictures. You put one down and mom put's one down, try to agree or not agree. If you can't agree, the outfit is off the table. This will do two things, help your mom understand your view on clothes for you, and you do have the right to make your own selections, to a point. But this also provides really good time with your mom and she needs it to begin to understand how much her little girl has grown up and maybe she could consider giving her more say in the things she wears. It's simple sweetie, it's called compromise.
Wishes for the best from Minnesota- HUGS!
2007-09-01 09:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand that you have your own thing and sense of fashion, i can relate to that. i used to hate pink too because i love blue. but then, you don't always have to hate the things that you hate right? there are some ways in which you can like the things that you disgust before, little by little of course. about your mom, tell her very calmly and properly that you want to try something new. tell her that at your age, you need to explore new things in order to learn. besides, clothing doesnt change one's attitude. well, it actually depends, but mostly it doesn't. if your mom disagrees with you, respect that. after all, she's your mom. don't worry, it's not always going to be like this, there would come a time that you get to decide on your own. sometimes it's harder deciding on your own though. but enjoy life, there's plenty of decision making for you in the future. good luck!
2007-09-01 09:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by craveforemore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cant u merge the two? i know sad doesnt suit pink at all (i'm a pink avoider-dark colour lover myself) but u could wear all dark and make room for dark pink (not the sweet girly pink).
anyhow, i think telling your mother you're not ready to be a girly girl is the best way to go. its saying "no mom i'm not wearing pink now" but to her it'll sound like "i'll wear it someday soon" (hopefully)
and whether you really end up being girly or not is another story altogether ;)
good luck :)
2007-09-01 09:28:37 · answer #5 · answered by white_flames 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can deal with your mom..when the two of you get on shopping try to coax her to let you have the right to choose on the stuff you like..but for sure she will not agree with this idea..I too had an experience like this. before when I was young (as 10 yrs. old),my mother did all the decisions including my clothes though I don't like most of her types, but still I followed her..lately when she get bothered of my reactions, she halted giving me everything which I don't like..
2007-09-01 09:37:15 · answer #6 · answered by lore lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time you two go shopping, try on a few things she likes and a few things you like. See if you can compromise. Try not to be a whiner and show that you respect your mother's expertise. Ask her advice on the things you like and see if she won't come around a little bit. Get something she likes and something you like, and try to wear the things she likes when you are with her, and the ones you like when you are with your friends. Sooner or later your style will grow on her. Good luck!
2007-09-01 09:23:33 · answer #7 · answered by Princess Picalilly 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is hard question to answer , Who's paying for the clothes ?
If it's your Mother there's not much you can do about it , unfortunately
If you are spending your own money then you should be able to decide for yourself
2007-09-01 09:25:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter solved this problem this way.....She bought herself some solid black clothes from the thrift store and refused to wear anything else. (I didn't care but her father did)
Unless the clothing was black she wouldn't wear it.
After giving away $300.00 of brand new any color clothing...we got smart and now we only buy her black.
2007-09-01 09:27:38 · answer #9 · answered by blueink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋