2007-09-01 01:44:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I mean, are there any reason not to be honest some time? "white lies" are OK?
2007-09-01 01:50:15 · update #1
I believe that Honesty between spouses is MOST important, especially for the health of a marriage, and also little white lies, can end up becoming big lies and can cause loss of trust in a marriage.
To have a happy marriage, couples need to be open and honest with their partner and not telling lies, because once you tell one lie, you have to tell another to cover up that first lie, and then it keeps getting bigger and bigger.
And then the danger of getting caught in that lie gets bigger because if you tell one lie and get caught in another that doesn't match up with one you told before, is how people catch you in it.
Just best to be totally honest.
I am against withholding things from my wife, unless it's to be a surprise like a birthday present. That's the only way I find acceptable about keeping something from my wife.
2007-09-01 02:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Convenient lies are sometimes permitted only to take the convenient time to think the things better.Or not to disturb the relationship with a minor fact.But honesty is essential all the time in a good marriage.One of the biggest problems is the interpretation of the facts even if you say the Truth all the time and you are honest.
2007-09-01 02:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is critical. You simply cannot have a good marriage without it.
That said, brutal honesty is NOT necessary. For example, say that your spouse has gained a few pounds, and you've noticed it. This is a fact, and it would be "honest" to say you've noticed, but it is not necessary to your marriage that you do so; in fact it probably isn't a good idea.
2007-09-01 03:58:12 · answer #3 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is one of the most important aspects of a great marriage. Be open, be honest and let the other person make their own decisions and have their own feelings about you. Holding back means you are mis-representing yourself. Marriage is no place to not have all the cards on the table.
2007-09-01 02:38:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is one of the foundations of a successful relationship.
That being said, it's not like you have to be concerned about total, 100% disclosure of every minute detail between yourselves, or that you have to be "brutally" honest about everything.
Basically, what counts is that you are honest about your feelings, desires, dreams, etc.
2007-09-01 01:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by John Doe 1st 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never have to be honest in a marriage, IF you want a divorce.
If your significant other EVER finds out you've lied though, that trust will be gone forever and your relationship will NEVER be the same.
2007-09-01 01:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by kmicheli24 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're being asked a direct question by your spouse you should always answer with honesty but I don't think you should tell your spouse every single little details of your day or life.
2007-09-01 02:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never ok to lie to a partner.I feel that honesty is very important in a relationship.Would you want your partner to lie to you?
2007-09-01 03:51:49 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Jennifer♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is good...
COMPLETE honesty is bad...
For example:
Q: Does this dress make me look fat? (it does)
Honest A: I think you could find a more flattering dress...
Completely Honest A: Boy does it ever!
GL
2007-09-01 01:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by Eric C 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honesty is great but sometime you may withhold information in the interest of others and a little secret to ones self is fine
2007-09-01 01:54:53 · answer #10 · answered by Kim from Sydney 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋