Better a lie that heals than a true that wounds......Agree or disagree and why?

Question

from your experience.........friendship.....family.....

Answer 1

Indeed, consolation and bright words ought always to come first when dealing with suffering friends. The sincere aim should be to try to charm people away from their pain and so give hope. A lie that heals is certainly much much better than enhancing the misfortune of others.

But then a healing lie obviously ought to have a strategic sincerity about itself, and never sound like a lie, but try to wake a feeling of good hope, even in the professional world.

Answer 2

I disagree.
Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.
A lie that heals might only heal the surface of the wound whereas truth can hurt at first as the scab comes off but ultimately, it can expose puss and infection. After it is cleaned up, it can then go on to heal properly from the inside out.
Many people who are hurting with deep wounds, can go for years carrying the pain and people say things like," It'll just take time.", Ignore them and get on with your own life." or "There's nothing you can do about it now.".
Sometimes you have to gently but firmly address the root of the problem eg unforgiveness, guilt, resentment etc. These things infect the original wound and until the wound is cleaned out, healing wont take place.

Answer 3

Disagree, what might seem like healing a wound usually turn out to be opening the wound more because the person won't have learned anything from their mistake.

Especially when it's your friend better to be honest with your friend they will appreciate you more for telling them the truth.

Answer 4

In my experience there is more than one way to present truth, and if you truly mean to give your friend valuable feedback, you can find a manner of telling that truth that will get it recieved that way, even if it is not pleaasant news.

A lie that heals is no healing, because you will have betrayed your friend. Nothing is more painful that that sort of betrayal by a friend, because them how much of the rest of your friendship is based on lies? You can usually serve up a point of view that heals without including a lie.

Answer 5

If your going to lie, small or big, you'd have to make sure your a good lier and can word it correctly without any hole's in what you say,Otherwise you'll be picked up more so if you have a very intuative person you are lieing to infront of you

personnaly it's best to tell the truth, if you dont know the truth 100% then it's best to say so and not to comment.The truth allway's comes out in the end.

Answer 6

clean wounds can heal .
I have found that most of the time -even though it inflicts pain temporarily- people can deal with the truth.
A lie some times is a cowardly way out of a sticky situation/or it is only a temporary fix.
In the long run people will feel better about you being truthful with them, than dealing with the fact that you lied to them.

Answer 7

A lie that Heals is also called something else. It's called being Loving... and I only agree on it to a point. Really depends on the nature of the lie... and wether any harm could come from it, later on.

Answer 8

It's total rubbish that honesty is the best policy.

Sometimes honesty is appropriate and should be used if the long-term benefits outweigh the short-term pain.

However, as all adults know, there are times when honesty is used (deliberately or otherwise) to hurt the feelings of others when a simple lie would have saved much pain. In this case, you should really ask yourself why you are choosing to be honest and who you are really being honest with...

Answer 9

Philosophically speaking, all truths or lies are relative and not absolute .If we have that kind of attitude,then a lie that heals is better than a truth that wounds.It's basically a question of personal choice.

Answer 10

Disagree lies never heal. The truth is always uncovered eventually then the pain is doubled by the fact of lying.