what i am just gonna go....no i must not judge you and then i dont know what i am dealing with ...cos i have not judged them. but then all this judging people is getting on my last nerve. what the heck do i know anyway. who am i to judge? but i feel i must judge to stay safe. what do you think?
2007-09-01 00:01:57 · 8 answers · asked by darkling 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Most people use two skills, intuition and judgment. Before you can successfully judge someone, you need to have all the facts, and both sides of the story. Judging on one side of a story is often going to fail. Even people with strong judgment skills can get it wrong, when all the facts are unavailable at the time.
You also need to know that as a human being, we have the right to make mistakes, and that mistakes are an opportunity to learn from. Potentially you need to be more accepting of people and their flaws. If you have no faith in friends, you need to find new friends. If you have the same problem with family, you need to be careful when you are around them.
Hope this answers your question.
2007-09-01 00:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by bumbass2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate the message, not the messenger. Jesus does not say that it is bad to hate the message. So judge the action not the person. If you watch the news, you see good people can do bad things. President Bush is not bad but drove drunk.
So be careful of situations and if you think a black person is going to rip you off then avoid it. But do not judge him or his race and say all blacks are bad. That is a gross exageration but people do that.
The person that really causes all the trouble in your life is actuallly you. See the blog below about karma.
2007-09-01 07:25:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all right if you judge me :) as long as you can understand that your judgment is very limited and narrow because of lack of information, huh?.. :D
We all judge each other this or that way, i think it's normal, anyone can have an opinion.
Still, I believe only two types of characters do not change their minds: the dead people and the stupid ones.
So go ahead in your judgements if it makes you feel safer, but don't get carried away! :)))
2007-09-01 07:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by Impulse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who say "don't make judgments" and the like are generally asking you not to judge THEM, because they expect to be found wanting in one way or another. You need to make judgments, as you point out, in order to decide who to trust. What you don't need to do is tell people your judgment of them, except in special circumstances.
Besides, people do in fact make judgments, and if they try not to, will usually "bend over backwards" to try to be fair, and end up forcing themselves to judge counter to their true feelings.
Try hard to judge on the basis of rational criteria, not prejudice. One skill to develop is the ability to suspend judgment long enough to make some observations, learn a few facts. For example, if someone tells me stories about how they lied, cheated, stole from other people, what makes me think they will not do it to me? Or if they try too hard to impress me, I wonder why they feel it is necessary. Observe how they act when other people are around; do they show a different face to each person? Why?
People who are just quiet, nice, undemanding are what you need. You don't need drama queens of either gender!
2007-09-01 07:25:59 · answer #4 · answered by auntb93 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to judgement a phrase I overheard always comes into mind and it helps me regulate my head. "They are to be pitied more than scorned"
You still make the judgement but have a different output once you derive what you're dealing with.
If you judge something you come across on the path of life to be a poisonous snake; it would be foolish to ignore your judgement. Just walk around the snake and be on your way leaving it to be a snake and you on to better things.
2007-09-01 07:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by b4_999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure you can judge them but keep it to your self and act upon you own judgment after all your not a saint
2007-09-01 07:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you can equate not judging others as being equal to being happy. you still must have discretion when it comes to your dealings with other people. you can have empathy, but still have boundaries to protect yourself.
2007-09-01 12:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by peacenerth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres always going to be people like that in your life. just stop asuming things and let it slid. you will find your way soon.
2007-09-01 07:13:29 · answer #8 · answered by sugarnipple226 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋