Marriage can be great or it can b crappy. SO ANSWER THE ? AND SAY WHY OR WHY NOT.
2007-08-31 23:51:42 · 16 answers · asked by jayman31 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't cheat and wouldn't. Has it crossed my mind? Yes. When it does, I know it is time to get on the ball and work out whatever is going on in my marriage. When I am lonely, I start planning dates and adventures and time for us. I let my spouse know I am feeling left out in the cold. He is a good friend of mine. I try to treat him like I want to be treated. If I wouldn't do it in front of him, I don't do it. We have too much to lose to bring in more problems. Cheating is just morally repulsive to me. I would leave first.
2007-09-01 00:13:29 · answer #1 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of married people will cheat. Just most don't kiss and tell. Have I cheated, yes. I am currently having an affair with my HS sweetheart basically the woman I should have married. We are both older (40s) both have families, same stage in life. Just wishing we weren't so stupid 20 years ago. Neither of us plan on getting divorced, our kids don't need to pay for the sins of their parents. And we both like our spouses well enough.
though it certainly is not a victim less offense, if either spouse were to find out it would be bad. This affair is now four years old.
2007-09-01 07:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by asp_snake 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my husband 7 1/2 years and have never cheated. However, I just found a week ago that he has set up accounts with a singles site listing himself as divorced with no kids (neither is true). He also set up an account with a site that is solely for finding sex and he indicated he's looking for "group sex" and "sexual relations." I never expected this from him as he's always condemned anyone he so much as suspected of flirting if they were married. So I guess it happens even when you think you know better. He swears he never physically cheated but as far as I'm concerned, had he followed through (and I don't know that he didn't - he's Navy and travels) physically it would only have been a formality. I'm getting myself checked for every STD my doctor can think of and then I'll take care of my kids and my broken heart. I don't think I'll ever be able to trust any man ever again. Still, I won't have a retaliatory affair like he's afraid of. I made a vow and I intend to keep it regardless of the decision I make about whether to stay and try to work it out or to leave. He had to leave the day after I found all this for a 2 week Navy trip (he's literally in a hotel room in Hawaii of all places as I write this and will be for another week) so we haven't even had much time to talk about it yet.
2007-09-01 07:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by RF 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have enjoyed the company of another man. He made me feel like life was worth living again. This was not a one night fling, it lasted a couple of years and we truly loved and respected each other. I did decide to end our relationship, because I also loved my husband & children and would never want to hurt them. Ending this relationship was hard for me because we spent so much time living & enjoying life. We both liked walking in the Forest Preserves, traveling downtown, boat rides, fishing, dart games, bowling, etc. My husband doesn't share the same zest for life as I. I know many would call my affair cheating, but it was so sincere, true love, that I even believe God forgives me.
2007-09-01 08:37:48 · answer #4 · answered by cubby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheated on first wife because she was a soul-eating demon from hell and I deserved some happiness and fun with other women. Married 25 years to wife #2 and have not, am not and will not cheat on her.....
2007-09-01 08:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i havent cheated, and neither has my husband. i think finding out youve been cheated on its pretty much one of the worst feelings in the world, i dont think i could put my husband through that. he was cheated on for two years straight, so he knows from personal experience how bad it can be. so yeah, when we said our vows, we meant it! :)
2007-09-01 08:31:14 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh....
People who don't cheat will say they don't.
And most people who do cheat, have the good sense not to confess.
I suspect your only 'cheating' honesty will come from the rare mindless braggard, or the reformed forgiven transgressor.
2007-09-01 07:39:00 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix Quill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been married for 16 yrs...i have cheated on him and he returned the favor, but we worked it out grew up and stop the nonsense and we vowed never to do it again. im still tempted and so is he but we keep fighting hopefully neither of us give in
2007-09-01 07:19:21 · answer #8 · answered by glitterbug_012003 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I've never cheated, nor has my husband. We are committed to each other through good times and bad.
2007-09-01 07:21:56 · answer #9 · answered by Violet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have never cheated on my husband and never will...i took my vows to heart...spuoses who cheat are not truly in love and need to divorce and move on with their lives...not to mention letting their spouse move on with their life too....
2007-09-01 08:29:30 · answer #10 · answered by lisa p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋