My bf lives 2 states away and recently joined the army for the next four years. We want to get married,but im not sure how we can......does he get breaks? Mature answers please,i dont want to hear im too young,i think i can decide what i want on my own,and also nothing depressing please.
2007-08-31 22:35:22 · 8 answers · asked by Maddy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am a veteran and this is how it goes. He has about a 10 week boot camp and then he will go to his school for his actually job in the army. This could be a couple of weeks or several months. After that he should get some time off around a couple weeks or so and then he will be stationed somewhere. Could be in the US or overseas. Now the question is are u willing to travel with him for the next four years and stand by him. It takes a strong woman to do this and it can be very stressful at times since our country is at war right now. God bless u both.
2007-09-08 07:11:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Army has a way of changing people. You are on your own , meeting different people and confronting challenging and life threatening situations. If you marry a soldier, be ready for deployments to places like Iraq and Afgahnistan. Dangerous places where he will be for 15 month tours and home for 12 months and then gone again. During that time you would be on an Army Post if you are lucky, and alone. The Army is not a 9-5 job anymore and a wife has to learn to be very self sufficient . Money is always a problem because there is never enough of it. If your soldier isn't an NCO then you may not even get on post housing and you will be in crime ridden parts of the civilian community because you can't afford better. Plan on working. Not only to fill your time, but also because you will need it to avoid eating bargin peanut butter for the last week of the month.(been there and done that) If you both are truly in love, you can make it through some very lean times. However , military life is a family affair, and a hard life no matter how you slice it. It takes some very strong glue to be maried to someone who is away for months at a time.Yes, it can be very depressing, but if this is really the one you are meant to be with, you will make it. Just know that it won't be an easy life, because you will be doing a lot of it on your own.
2007-09-06 23:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After basic training he will get leave time. You will have to plan your life around the army now that he belongs to it. That is the way it is, being married to a military man. Get used to it because it will become your way of life for at least the next four years. You can have wonderful times together in the future, the army way of life is not so bad. Once you are married and he is not off somewhere on an assignment, you can usually get fairly good housing, it is just a different way of living if you have never had any one in the military in your family. The best of luck to both of you.
2007-09-06 06:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to let you know as soon as possible when he will be able to make a return visit and plan around that. I would keep things very simple in case there is a change in his schedule, this way you won't waste alot of money of unreturnable deposits.
2007-09-07 14:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has to finish boot camp first and then he gets a leave. I would ask him to get a schedul and plan it around that. Good Luck and I hope everything works out fine.
2007-09-01 05:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by orangie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it is possible to get married while someone is in another state because I have seen it b4 but very rare, and it too will be hard because how will u spend time with them or anything>>> just a question...wouldn't that be hard to deal with someone your married to who is never there???
2007-09-08 21:47:56 · answer #6 · answered by Sky * 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he comes in town and if he agrees to it marry on the base or have small interment wedding
2007-09-07 09:24:40 · answer #7 · answered by sherrone j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him go for it he will come to you and yes they do have breaks,leave not sure how often though but hey go for it my parents did and their still together 40 years later
2007-09-01 05:46:48 · answer #8 · answered by CRUZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋