my boyfriend and i have been together 5 and a half years. i want to get married and he says he does, buti dont know why we dont! he keeps making excuses telling me he wants to have enought money to get me a nice ring and do everything right....i dont care about thaht stuff i just want to be his wife! what do you think? do you need any additional details?
2007-08-31 19:54:25 · 15 answers · asked by Landis 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just wait, he wants it to be perfect, i think maybe this is a special day for him, and he takes it serious, respect the way he thinks, after all apperently hes thinking of you...
Good Luck...
2007-08-31 19:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by Karla 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
He is B.S.ing you.
You need to issue an ultimatum and be prepared to move out.
He will not get off dead-center because you have been giving him everything anyway. Why buy the cow when you already get all the milk for free?
This is bass-ackwards.
You need to have better self-esteem... better standards than this. "Living together" is simply selling yourself short.
Next time, you don't move in with a guy until you at least have an engagement ring and a wedding date set. Make the guy earn it!
2007-08-31 20:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my god, my boyfriend of 18 years told me the same thing and a week ago he left me. I had bought the dress myself and the darn thing had started to turn kinda yellowish it had been in the closet so long. Now I'm stuck with the dress because it's not like I can take it back for a refund, not that it matters because I paid $75 dollars for it in '89 and the place where I bought it doesn't even exist anymore these orientals came in and have since inundated our neighborhood and turned this tuxedo and wedding dress place into a laundromat and you know I can't stand these people. But anyway I don't mean to sound racist or anything but now my life is ruined. And I just found out my ex boyfriend, my foofy foofy like I used to call him is with this whiete chick. I'm sorry I'm a little upset, to answer your question, you should kick your boyfriend to the curb, he's nothing but a low life, white trash, loser, scumbag!!!!!!!!!
2007-08-31 20:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by NFM 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he might think that if you guys get married your relationship will change. My step sis and her b/f have been like this too and he gave her a promise ring on like there 1 yr and they have talked about marriage and now he acts like he doesn't wanna marry her but he still says one day. Some guys are just scared to get married since everything does seem to change. Maybe next time you talk about marriage and rings tell him you don't really care about a fancy nice ring.
2007-08-31 20:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by Rayray 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is afraid because once that little marriage liscense paper is in your hands there are problens if you want to get out of the union. However, one should know within a few months if they are ready or not. If he doesn't make up his mind within a time limityou give him, like six more months, look for someone else if you want to get married.,
2007-08-31 20:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by misty_blue2u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like the two one among you have been asking one yet another already yet neither of you're extremely listening. purely set a date already and be finished with it. If he loves you and needs to spend something of his life with you, stroll him right down to the community courthouse and do the deed suited then and there. There could desire to be no reason to not flow by using with it. If he has doubts, then needless to say he won't flow willingly to the courthouse and you will have 2 suggestions: settle for the area you reside in and enable the belief of marriage flow (for now) OR leave....and needless to say you adore him and don't prefer to leave. So purely see if he will run on down city with you and get it over with. you've got a huge wedding ceremony later.
2016-10-17 09:11:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he does, and he just really wans to make things special for you. And for himself too, actually.
He wants to feel like he done all the right things on your special day. ^_^
What's wrong with that. You have a guy who loves you so much, who wants to spend the rest of his life with you...Don't feel so abd if you guys arent getting married right away even though you both said you want to.
also....
He might really want to marry you, but is feling afraid, this is a big commitment, maybe he has cold feet, or his just thinking about your future toegther, about if he can support you and a future family he guys might have, he just wants things to be right.
Kiss the guy.
Si-Lynn
But if you really don't care, about all that fancy stuff, and just want your man, then tell him that.
2007-08-31 20:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush? You're with him, right? So, that's the important thing.
So why SHOULDN'T he wait until he can afford a nice ring or whatever else? Do you really need a piece of paper declaring you in love in order to feel validated?
2007-08-31 20:00:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is stalling. Tell him you are going to set the date, and if he has a problem, to tell you the real reason why. Bull about a better ring or more money is not accepted.
2007-08-31 23:28:27 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he wants to get married - he will never have enough money. If you give him and ultimatum and he marries you b/c he fears you will leave - I think it would end in divorce b/c he would resent you for forcing him.
Maybe your relationship is more habit that being in love - at least on his end. Men like the comfort of habits. Maybe you should take a break from your relationship and see what happens.
2007-08-31 20:00:38 · answer #10 · answered by totalstressor 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋