My best friend asked me to marry him over a year ago and I siad yes but now i feel like i have lost my friend and now jus have a husbad.........i want my friend back.
2007-08-31 19:36:23 · 14 answers · asked by exceptionallyexceptional 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well i mean my husband use to be my best friend but now since we are married hes not anymore.
2007-08-31 19:59:14 · update #1
My husband was then and is now my best friend. We knew everything about each other before we got married - and we still know everything. Yes it's hard when you are fighting about an issue sometimes to talk with each other - I'm lucky in that I have a female best friend I can go to on occasion as well - so you will sometimes need someone else to talk with. But always go to your spouse as soon as you can.
Don't let things change just because you're married. Calm down and then talk with each other about what ever it is that is causing problems in the relationship - and remember, you were friends first, then partners in a relationship, and now husband and wife. The friendship has always been there.
I was best friends with my husband for 4 years before getting together as a couple ... we were a couple for 6 years before we got married ... and we've been married for 7 years - that's a 17 year relationship. With children.
To keep your marriage alive, you do things, like plan dates, have a candle-light dinner, maybe wear sexy outfits that spark the imagination. Well, do some things that keep that friendship alive as well - go to a movie together, head to the mall, have lunch together. What did you do as friends? Keep doing it. What did you do while dating? Keep doing it. Keep that spark in your marriage and in your friendship - you'll be very glad you did. Your best friend is still there - trust me.
2007-09-01 08:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Ariana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't he be both? It takes a little work to maintain both sides of the relationship, but it can be done. Just keep going out together as often as you can and when something happens, go to each other about it instead of some other friend or family member. Do the things you did as friends. It can make for a very fulfilling marriage and if you can communicate as friends it can take some of the strain off of the hard-to-talk-about stuff that comes up along the way.
2007-08-31 20:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by mommymartin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start acting like his friend again. Plan a date and do something you did as friends, it can be hard to maintain once you add all of life's ups and downs into the mix. I really envy you. I hope and pray for a friend that will love me through out life's miles. It may take a little bit of work, and some imagination, but you can do it. And your friendship/marriage is worth it.
2007-08-31 19:50:12 · answer #3 · answered by booper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A spouse should always be ones best friend. Sounds like you have changed your mind on the marriage issue and realize you will lose both the friend and husband.
2007-08-31 19:45:00 · answer #4 · answered by Rocky J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't say that I know how you feel. When I got married it was to my best friend. I haven't lost that. My wife is still my best friend. I gained a wife. In my opinion....your spouse should be your best friend. It makes things so much easier when you spend the rest of your life with someone that you consider your friend and your spouse.
2007-08-31 19:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by gudlistnr 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all relationship usually start out with being friends because you can talk to your friend about anything right and now have you lost that communication with your husband.
i no it is hard but try to figure out what went wrong. sometimes friends and marriage don't mix you cant have both sometimes it depends on the individual
2007-08-31 19:42:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is like saying --- having ur cake and eating it tooo
you can have one or the other... not likely to have both... it just doesn't work..
in very few marriages..do man and wife share everything as best friends do.. if u cheat u can share that with ur b/f.. but not with ur spouse..
2007-08-31 21:00:31 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Read "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands"
Your friend is in there. You just need to know how to find him.
2007-08-31 19:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by Phoenix Quill 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
wooow...i really feel for you...except for me, it's losing a friend to gain a boyfriend who could potentially be a husband
2007-08-31 19:42:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter! Tell him what has changed and how much you miss your friend.
2007-08-31 19:42:45 · answer #10 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋