I told my girlfriend of almost 8 months that I loved her for the first time. I did that about 2 weeks, and she said it right back. But I kinda have a hard time believing it. It just doesn't seem like she means it when she says it. She's also never said it to me first when we're together. I'm always the one that says it first. Also, I feel like she likes a friend of ours more than me. This friend is the one that introduced us for the first time. But everytime I'm with her, and she sees him, she screams his name and waves and gets real happy. When she sees me, she barely looks at me and half the time doesn't even say hey. She went back to Cali for 6 weeks to visit her hometown, and we texted each other or talked on the computer almost everyday. The first night we did something together since she was back, she didn't talk that much, and she texted him nearly the whole time. He is going out with her best friend, and they both said that that was what they were talking about.
2007-08-31 18:44:11 · 10 answers · asked by GalacticaCag 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Also, she just seems to be sad when he isn't at certain events at school. But I can't help but feel that she wouldn't be as sad if I was gone. I feel like if we were both gone, she'd want him to be there over me. Maybe I'm worrying over nothing, but this is really making me depressed.
2007-08-31 18:44:32 · update #1
dude you are better than this. She is just using you while flirting with other guys. If this guy "your friend" is truly your friend this what you can do. tell him you call you and put your phone on mute while he call your current girlfriend and 3-way tell your friend to tell your girlfriend if she like him and what her feeling for you. Seem to me she toying with you I would dump her their if I dont get the respect I need. Don't let her lead you she probably going attack first so you have to make the first move your choice dump or keep a hang on their.
2007-08-31 18:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had me right up until you said she "screams his name and waves and gets real happy." Ding, ding, teenager alert!!!!!!!!
Not that there is anything wrong with that, but you're young, you'll love many people in your life. She does not love you. At least not the kind of love that makes people stay together through thick and thin, for 50 years. She may love hanging out with you, she may love the way you treat her, she may love the things you buy her. But she is not IN love with you. There is a difference. But it's hard to know that when you're young.
I would put your romance on hold and see what happens from there. You guys are young, go play the field. Date lots and lots of girls. Run! Be free! And be happy!!
2007-09-01 02:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by hrcarr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your emotions only to the extent that they are letting you know something is amiss. BEST: Tallk to your girlfriend and tell her what you notice. She will probably tell you again that no..you are just being paranoid but if you let her know that it bothers you enough to maybe break up? She might do something about it. I happen to agree with most of the other answers with a question for your girl...why is she texting the dude all the time instead of her best friend and getting so excited over him? HOW RUDE!
2007-09-01 13:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by peggy m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ugh.....doesn't sound good to me. only because it could be nothing - or it could be something.lol.
What does her best friend think of her texting him all the time? does she even know? I am friends with my best friends boyfriend, but I wouldn't spend all day texting him - only time I do is if I can't get a hold of her. sounds like shes crossing a lot of boundaries. It also sounds like she is really attracted to him - that's obvious. whether she admits it or not otherwise she wouldn't be all happy when she sees him and all that.
she sounds distant to you. UNLESS you are blowing it out of proportion and maybe your jealous of their friendship.
so, I guess I would talk to her about the way you feel about the situation and see what she says. but, if it really is how you described, I would let it go before you get in too deep.
2007-09-01 02:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by Kmmv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be on guard.....watch the body language, trust your own judgememt. You seem to be aware of whats going on, so keep on top of it. Let her know that you are aware of whats going on. Challenge her,demand more, put her "in a corner" Sometimes.... this is the only way to get a person to "come forward" with the truth. Don't ask......demand !
2007-09-01 02:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by mac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reality check!! You are the spare tire!!! Lose her and tell her friend about the texting, she is cruel, mean, no loyalty to anyone! Get away, run! You deserve better!
2007-09-01 02:02:07 · answer #6 · answered by Faerie loue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont belive your worrying over nothing It sounds like somethings up, but you never know they might just be good friends, but you'de have to ask her.
2007-09-01 01:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by Eva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you talk to her about it? Tell her what you're thinking? It's good to be open about stuff if you can.
2007-09-01 01:52:20 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it.
2007-09-01 02:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by Scozbo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is not in your control. sorry for you
2007-09-01 01:57:31 · answer #10 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋