My husband and I are currently in the process of divorce, the decree absolute is 6 weeks away. I recently applied for Legal aid to sort out the division of the matrimonial home, however, following a meeting with my husband yesterday, we have decided to sort out the house ourselves (we are still very amicable), i.e. he is just going to give me the amount of money that we agreed on, can I do this? Can i just go to my solicitor and tell him that I want to withdraw the application for legal aid? And do i have to tell him why? Do I have to tell him what our arrangement is? I would think that it would have nothing to do with my solicitor if we have sorted it ourselves, I just want to telll the solicitor to continue with the decree absolute and leave it at that. Serious answers only please, I am going to my solicitors on Monday and I don't want to offend him in any way! Thanks
2007-08-31 18:38:06 · 6 answers · asked by loveyou 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is taking equity out on the house and he is giving me the money next week, so there is no chance of it going wrong, it will be in my bank account next week, thanks for your answers, any more are welcome, Thanks
2007-08-31 18:56:39 · update #1
Yes, you need to tell your solicitor so that the request for legal aid can be withdrawn as legally as it was submitted.
I mean no disrespect to you or your husband but I honestly think you're making a mistake in relying on your husband to just give you the amount of money you ask for. Anything can happen between now and then to change his mind or circumstances and it's too easy for him to drag his feet. Being amicable and practical are two different things. You need that agreement in writing and certified by the court so that it's legal and binding and neither can change your minds later for any reason.
Your solicitor will attempt to talk you out of it but if you insist make sure he knows you want him to write up the legal agreement. He be pleased with that at least - and what does his feelings have anything to do with your divorce? He's getting paid no matter which way you go with this.
2007-08-31 18:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by iuud2noitall 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although you are both amicable and I am sure you are trying to keep it that way
But him re-mortgaging the house and giving you money has me concerned.
How much of a mortgage is owed now? What is the current market value? How much is it going to be re-mortgaged for? Who is going to end up with the house? Is this agreement in writing?
There are too many questions. Let the solicitor know about this and see what they say.
2007-08-31 19:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-13 21:42:00 · answer #3 · answered by blinebry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Aunt's husband worked for a solicitors. They were getting divorced and were "amicable and pleasant"... and she agreed to his proposal of sorting it out between themselves on the terms they had both verbally agreed.
Through a chance bit of luck she found out that he'd got his firm to put the lion's share of stuff (house percentage / monies / valuables to him - as he wanted to move in to a new place with his new young dolly-bird. Thankfully she found out in time and got intervention.
I'd just be careful if I were you.
2007-08-31 19:09:23 · answer #4 · answered by Narky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly suggest that you keep your lawyer informed of everything that is happening, have them read everything with you, and don't sign *anything* without running by your lawyer.
Amicable or not, you might regret not having a disinterested party looking out for your best interests.
2007-08-31 19:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by Mathsorcerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always be upfront with your attorney,that way if any problems arise,he/she will know what to do
2007-08-31 18:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋