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I have a good guy friend, we have fun and we appreciate each other and our friendship.

I have a gf Ive known since schooling years, over 12 yrs ago... Basically she ll sleep with any men, married or not. She even has an affair with her bf's sister's partner. So she spells trouble.

We were all hanging out one day, I introduced them coz I thought it ll be nice to just hang out. He basically knows about her, I confide in my thoughts with him alot - what she is and her sexual life. I told him I will never want my good friends to be having flings with her coz its not respectful. It ll just be too weird.

She wanted his number and they exchanged. Today I just learnt from her that they met up once months ago and made out. She said he told her not to tell me about it. Im feeling like crap now... I know its his life but I told him b4 it ll affect me. For her, she told me its nothing and she knew I was upset but she s still trying to defend her actions.

Is this acceptable?

2007-08-31 18:36:26 · 10 answers · asked by Wish 4 in Entertainment & Music Polls & Surveys

J.C - its great ur life is smooth sailing. Others might not be. So respect it.

2007-08-31 18:44:08 · update #1

Im open to opinions as long as ya not rude. I ll give everyone a thumbs up as long as you state your opinion (trash me or on my side its ok) and not be a rude prick.

2007-08-31 18:56:21 · update #2

Sigh no Im not close to her... I cant say im a backstabber when she s just a regular friend whom I say hi to once in a week or 3 weeks kinda thing. And its very hypocritical if someone said he/she has never talk bad abt his or her friends before. I didnt make lies, I say factual things. but thanks anyways.

2007-08-31 21:44:17 · update #3

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I say get rid of her, sounds like she has no morals, that she will go after anything with a third leg. Someday it could be your boyfriend or signifcant other. She's trouble with a capital T!

2007-08-31 18:44:39 · answer #1 · answered by ♥☠Madame Joker☠♥ 7 · 2 0

You were the one who introduced them after telling your guy friend what type of person she is. Is this acceptable? He is a guy, and most guys would have a fling with a girl like that. It doesn't sound as if the two of you are in a serious relationship, so you really do not have the right to tell him who he can or cannot see. I also do not see what your point is by having a girlfriend who behaves like this then turn around and talk about her behind her back. It doesn't seem very nice for you to do that. She may be slut, but you are a backstabber.

2007-09-01 01:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 2 0

So your good friend from school is basically a slut (sorry to be rude).
You told her NOT to go out with a male friend that you introduced her to, yet you knew she would go to bed with almost any guy. Then you expected her to listen to you and NOT get laid with this guy.

Your question is: Is this acceptable behavior for my girl friend and should I be mad at her about it?

NO, it is unacceptable behavior and a mental cry for help.
She feels she needs attention that she is not getting and she thinks that casual affairs with any guy she meets will fill the void in her life. Clearly, the void is unfulfilled and SHE needs to find out what to do about it.

Should you be mad? Well you should have expected it, but yes you have a right to be mad. What you should be mad at is that your friend has a clear sexual addiction problem and neither one of you have done anything about it for years. It is her life and her problem, but as your friend that makes it your problem too and you need to tell her that she is screwing up her life and needs to address this sexual addiction issue before she sleeps with some guy who has a jealous wife that will come hunting her with a shotgun!

Grab her by the ears and ask her this “Are you trying to get a jealous woman to shoot you to death! Are you try to sleep with every man on the planet?” What is you major malfunction? I am your friend and as your friend I can tell you that you are fuc_ed up and need to get some mental help now, before I have to attend your funeral!”

Scream this at her if you have to. You TOLD her not to have sex with your male friend and she went and did it anyway. Does she hate you, does she not respect you or not listen to you—no, she can’t help herself. This girl is seriously sick and needs help.

Porn stars hate to tell their prospective boy friends how they earned their living. Men think that women who have such casual sex are no better than prostitutes; they are scum. Men feel that they won’t be man enough to sexually satisfy a woman with such a huge apatite and that she will run off with the next guy who can give her the sex she needs.

She needs acceptance and she needs a steady guy, but the more she sleeps around with men the less chance she has of getting one; especially a quality one.

You are her friend and you see her for all intents and purposes driving drunk, time and time again and it is about time that you take those keys away from her before she gets someone killed.

Is it your responsibility to do this, is it your job? No one else has, no one else has noticed or cares enough to tell her that she is screwing up her life literally. It is time for an intervention and if it doesn’t start with you then who is going to start it. If she is such a good and long term friend then doesn’t she deserve such an intervention from you? Just how close are you and how much do you object to her behavior? Just how bad is what she doing? It sounds to me like it is horrible and a disaster in action. If she sleeps with the wrong married man a jealous wife could grab her shotgun and kill her. It can’t get much more serious than that. I don’t think you can fix her or help her with her problem, but you sure can tell her that SHE needs to do it and try to find some help for her.

You should have expected that your long time girl friend would sleep with any guy that you would introduce her to. The fact that you haven’t done anything about it yet is a serious issue and makes me wonder just how strong your friendship really is. This woman’s behavior is shocking, it is wrong and no one in her life is going to do anything to stop her from her path of destruction.

[If I didn’t have a girl friend I would be asking for her phone number, but then I am a guy and us guys think about sex over 60% of the time. The human males’ best way to reproduce is to have sex as frequently as possible, as quickly as possible, with as many women as possible. We are sex machines who crave it every day, all day. No, I don’t really want her phone number, I wouldn’t respect such a woman as you describe and I wouldn’t want to take advantage of her illness, but I am better than 60% of the men out there who will do exactly that!]

2007-09-01 01:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by Dan S 7 · 1 1

" I will never want my good friends to be having flings with her coz its not respectful".

yea, that's unreasonable, controlling, and fantasy. you cannot controll what other people do.

2007-09-01 01:44:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Distance your self from her now. Women like that don't do anything but bring you trouble and stds

2007-09-01 01:43:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

Trailer trash drama. Go on jerry springer.

2007-09-01 01:42:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2 2

its their life. if your not interested in him at all other than friendship, then you have no right to intrude.

if you are interested in him as more than a friend then you should have told him. if you didn't, you have no right to hold it against him.

2007-09-01 01:44:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

The truth would hurt you to much.

2007-09-01 01:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by Don't Follow Anyone 6 · 1 0

No, I think you ahve a reason to be pissed....For one you asked him not to go there and he did anyways and then he tried to hide it from you....Thats not a good friend:( Good luck !

2007-09-01 01:43:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 2 2

Drop her she sounds way too sleazy.

2007-09-01 01:41:38 · answer #10 · answered by 354gr 6 · 5 1

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