How Do I apologize To someone I Never Meant To Hurt?

Question

I don't think he will ever speak to me again.

Answer 1

My Dearest Flynn
The three hardest words to say to someone is " I am Sorry" exspecially when you truly know you have done wrong to someone. These three words are easy if you bump into a stranger at the grocery store but when it is someone we hold dear to our hearts the words come so hard. We can say we are sorry to a loved one when we forget to do something they asked of us easily enough because we know that the problem can be fixed but the type of apology you ask about is harder because we have let that loved one down.
I don't need to know what you have done to know that what ever it is you yourself know you broke a trust with this person in what ever the action was.
Going by examples of my mistakes with my husband we have had issues with finances where one of us had let the other down, we have had infidelity issues where one of us had been hurt, we have had issues of distrust and fights that have been on occasion truly knock down fights where one of us has been hurt. The hardest thing was learning to forgive these actions and over come the pain that came with the action. Even now the infidelity is one we are trying to overcome.
Love for one another is the foundation for the forgiveness. Love for one another is the streangth that we have to say I am sorry when we have let the other down. Love is also the reason we learn from the mistake we made and don't do that again so we do not have to see that pain in the others eyes again.
If you both believe in the love you have for each other it is a good start to heal. Healing from such a mistake does not come over night but it can from over time. Just as our parents would forgive us as children when we destroyed their trust at times we as adults can do the same.
Hopefully by now you have figured out YOU have the easy step at the moment as difficult as those three words are to say its overcoming the reason you have to say them. You have to have the strength to show him that it won't happen again the patience to understand his distrust in you for a time and the beliefe in your love to not make the same mistake again.
If he is not willing to see you right now Hallmark makes a great many cards I myself bought one once in my life that said "Please don't leave me" the inside was blank so I could write what I needed to say. My husband sent me flowers (old fashioned yes but the card said "I am sorry". We both have also had to just take a deep breath look the other in the eye and just say it. Forgiveness is the next step and even if you have to apologize every morning until he says quit apologizing I forgive you. If what you did was that wrong and you care about him that much it is worth the struggle to keep trying until he forgives. Just no matter what it is that you have done you are the one that hurt him (to the point you think he may never talk to you again) he is basically the victim and he may be hard to get close to again for quite awhile and you may start to think he needs to just get over it but getting over it is the hardest. Remember the bruises fade the words can be forgiven but what never goes away is the memory of what was done wrong and the emotion that brings with that memory takes the hardest to get over BUT IF HE MEANS THAT MUCH TO YOU THEN HE IS WORTH EVERY EFFORT TO KEEP SO JUST TAKE THAT DEEP BREATH LOOK HIM STRAIGHT IN THE EYE AND SAY " I AM SORRY" AND KEEP SAYING IT EVERY DAY IN EVERY WAY VERBALLY WRITEN AND EVEN IN THAT GREAT NEW FORM TEXT MESSEGE OR SEND IT IN AN E-MAIL AND KEEP SAYING IT EVERY DAY AND WHEN HE FINALLY GETS AROUND TO FORGIVING YOU SAY IT AT LEAST ONCE A MONTH SO HE KNOWS THAT YOU HAVEN'T FOR GOT THAT YOU DID AT ONE TIME HURT HIM.

Answer 2

As mentioned above, it has a lot to do with what you did. Try putting yourself into his shoes and bringing yourself back to the moment you hurt him. Try to understand and feel how it affected him. If it was something you said out of heat or did something insensitive, then try reasoning out with him. You could text or give him a call. If he doesn't respond, try to give him a little time to cool down. Happened to me before and I kept calling my significant other, until she finally answered. I felt that I was really sorry and needed to apologize and work things out, I was desperate thus the relentless calls. If it still doesn't work, send him an email or a letter explaining what you really meant. I hope you didn't do something really bad or out of hand to hurt him. All the best! =)

Answer 3

You never know about men. Sometimes they might just respect you more for telling them straight. Knowing the guys you like Flynn, I'd say that he doesn't expect an appology at all. I bet he was hurting before you did whatever it was that you did. Know what I mean? Keep chargin' girl.

And do you think a man could actually stay mad at you?

Answer 4

They'll typically resent you a bit for it, however in case you return and ask for forgiveness with sincerity and sound as despite the fact that you are actual approximately it, they are going to frequently recognize and can smile and forgive you for swallowing your pleasure and make it a factor to keep in mind them and the way dangerous you particularly suppose. Well, no less than a tight man or woman could. ;)

Answer 5

Apologise sincerely, as long as you know you have done the best you can to do this, you will be able to let it go.
Even if you "think" you will "feel" or "look" silly.
Do what your heart tells you to do.

When the same thing happened to me, I drove to the persons house and put a letter in their letterbox, apologising for what I said and did.
Remember in apologising you can only speak for yourself, and do not go over the "problem" or "issue".
Just apologise for what you did.
You should feel lighter and much better.

Blessings to you for your kind heart.

Answer 6

the answer is in the question, dont speak to him again but first ask an apology, because if that person really cares for you he will not be wanting to see you miserable and dying of guilt and dont do that stupid thing again

Answer 7

It has to do a lot with what you did. Consider what you did, and why, and think about how he might feel and how he might see the situation. I wish I could help more, but I don't have enough.

Good luck and hope it all works out for the best.

Answer 8

give him some space and depending on the situation give him some time to marinate his next move..if it was a major blow to his ego then find a way to make it up to him by hanging out at a game of pool or someplace mellow but busy like a bowling alley play a game or two chat but keep busy after its all said and done go your seperate ways..if its about cheating well..i can't help you there..cause i don't like loose women..so i'll keep my trap shut on that one..

Answer 9

Go to that person directly and make your point it is up to them if they want to except your apology.
First of all if you hurt someone feelings and want to apologize to them and they wont except it at least you have tried.
good luck

Answer 10

Make him listen, then apologize and agree to any requests, he makes. That way, you and he will both forgive and make up! You really should've done it, sooner. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to do it, and the longer it will take to do it.