well today my friend Magda called me crying that her bf had recently broke up with her and she wanted to hang out with me and my friend francisco.....i wasnt able to make it but it turs out that Francisco and magda ended up kissing....well Francisco has a gf that moved to georgia and he loves her very much they pretty much planned their whole lifes together... he called me up crying.....but he likes them both but doesnt wanna hurt either one of them because both magda and his gf have been through so much with past bf's that they will most likely end and he is also fed up with all of this and claims how he just wants to end his life rather than make a choice between who he considers to be the best 2 girls in the world....he is like a brother to me and i really dont want him to do anything stupid...what can i do? what should i tell him?
2007-08-31 17:14:38 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think your friend Fransisco might be overacting just a teensy little bit. He kissed a girl and he has a girlfriend. He loves both them and doesn't want to make a choice and hurt them. Okay, hard situation, but also common situation, and also not the end of the world.
Firstly, ask him if he's really prepared to throw away everything he had with his girlfriend for someone new. His girlfriend and he obviously have something special, and does he really, honestly want to give them up?
Magda may have just been feeling vulnerable and upset about her boyfriend dumping her, that may be the reason they ended up kissing. After getting over everything, she may not have feelings for Fransisco. If she does, ask her if she wants to come between Fransisco and his girlfriend, now that she knows what it's like to be dumped?
That should sort it out.
Good luck.
2007-09-08 17:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is just a kiss ...Magda at this point is not considering francisco as a boyfriend yet maybe for starters a forming crush . This is what needs to happen you go to the mall with Magda as you hang out & talk some end up at a for example video game place or s/thing w/in your age but lets say this for now just to show you how to set it up..why there cause its an easy way to get out info w/out coming across as your getting info don't mention anything keep it short just see where she stands on the whole thing, it tones down the serious side of it & it gives a chance to have francisco stop in & say hi (make sure you time this like enter the game rm at this time w/Magda make sure you get it all out there in 30 mins..except for last five min let it clear the air ..be in the front of the place playing a game have Francisco & friends walk pass by ...let only you see him not Francisco see you so scream out hi gives him a foot in the door to come over there ..have two friends go somewhere else in mall have one friend go w/Francisco ...why to have this friend be set up w/Magda (since you know her make sure its s/one she'll really like etc) then before the intro of Magda & this guy..have this guy say outloud whos this hottie...i saw her first your already taken...it might be some awkwardness between M&F but have this guy take that away by winning over Magda later..later have Francisco do s/thing funny away from the two then this guy mention its about time he laughs hes been so lonely & depressed about the love of his life moving far away he really does love her....later later go out to eat have Francisco & Magda alone just for a couple of min..have him tell her about that time im real sorry i think your great but i screwed up by doing this to my g/friend will you f/give me...my friend is really into you he ask me if you were a model...then come back to the table now all she is thinking about is w/this guy said about her etc..hes cleared..now the part in telling his girlfriend if i were him i would wait it out in this situation why cause she just moved & telling her now w/be insult over injury she will be thinking he really doesn't care about me i leave for two sec. hes kissing s/one else ..what if its been a yr i hate to know w/happens etc..so tell him to wait it out 3 to6 mo he can do it it was a meaningless kiss... a kiss tell him to move on until he does tell her then w/he does make sure he doesn't give a name(hinting shes not important & meaningless random kiss) or a time just say a while back he can't remember ( he can get away w/this considering men do forget time no offense...) tell him to talk more about being scared to tell her , how much he loves her....& let things mend where it may mend...its up to her at this point...it will be ok....
2007-09-08 08:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey tell him he can like two girls that isn't bad. but he shoudlnt' have to make decisions hes not marrying no one yet. he can stay friends with both of them and that is what he should do. dying isn't good for no one and it would only upset all 3 of you all. so therefore tell him he would be so missed it wouldn't be worth it so just talk softly to him and let him know you are there. don't pressure him and tell him to just let them both go and try soemthing else later when hes more at thoughts of his own needs and when he is ready to have a gf again.
2007-09-07 23:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM 2 DON'T PLAY WITH FIRE.BECAUSE IT WILL BITE HIM IN THE *** LATER
KEEP GF#1
AND JUST TELL THE OTHER GIRL THAT HE IS SO SORRY FOR THE KISS BUT IT MENT NOTHING.HE JUST GOT CAUGHT UP IN TO HER ****
2007-09-08 22:58:58 · answer #4 · answered by FEFE26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just pray 4 him that all i realy know to do or talk to a grown up
2007-09-08 21:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by birdy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude...im really sorry...but you have very dramatic friends!
2007-09-01 01:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by Brianna G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋