Am I the only one? I see groups of people all over campus and hanging out at night and going out and partying... I am a pretty, smart, and very kind girl but I am having a really hard time meeting anyone. I have only been a student at this school for one year (you'd think enough to meet people, but I haven't!). I have been bulimic and I isolated myself from all people for years but now I am sick and tired of being alone. I live off campus so I find that very difficult to meet people. And then class...you don't really get the chance to meet people. I feel so out of the social scene I don't even know if I would know how to do it. There is no reason for a normal 22 year old girl to be so alone! I think part of it actually may be though that I don't trust myself with other people, given my sick past and how I pushed everyone away. I am used to being along..but people aren't naturally meant to be lonely. We all need people! Any advice from others in similar situations. Please no rude answer
2007-08-31 17:10:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think your past makes you feel different than all the people around you, there for you isolate yourself. I think your first step to making friends is to realize that you are normal. Everyone has skeletons in their closet. Not everyone's will be the same as yours but you don't have to wear it acrossed your chest in red lettters. Listen to people as you walk around and campus and see where they like to go out. Go somewhere that sounds interesting and just chill out. The only expectation you should have for the evening is to have fun and mingle. It will happen. Good luck.
2007-08-31 18:01:29 · answer #1 · answered by mg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! It is hard sometimes to meet people when you are in a new place, I am taking it that you have moved away from home and are not around any family members. So if I were you I would start at church in the area of school. You will find very nice clean cut friends in a church setting. More likely to become lifelong friends. If that doesn't work maybe if you have time before class starts go and stand or sit around your class room maybe there will be others that come a little early to, for one reason or another. Try not to be to hard on yourself about the bulimia I will be praying for you. I hope that you have gotten some counseling for that because that usually stems from something far deeper than just looks. You sound like a very nice person. I hope you live in an area with alot of nice people instead of living around people who are not naturally outgoing and nice. Good luck to you in your new home and journey with finding friends God Bless You and keep you!
2007-09-01 00:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by LILBITOFKY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U'll be fine. Get on myspace or some site like that and try to find some ppl that go to ur school. OR ask around this site. U'll meet friends, it'll just take time. I was in ur situation too. I felt so lonely in the dorms. Yeah, who feels alone in the dorms? But after my first semester, I made friends(they came up to me). I"m not a social person, but soon, ppl would just come up to me and we'd be friends. One time I had about six friends one year at school. Yeah, that's a lot to me. I'm still the same way, but online I've made many friends, and i'm sure if u made them online first, the akwardness of meeting will be numbed because they know u already, then u can meet somewhere safe, on campus, and strike up a friendship, and take it from there. Good luck.
2007-09-01 00:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please... stay away form guns... Just kidding.
My wife and I were married when she turned 30. Her first marriage. When I inquired about her friends, she told me that all of the friends she had came from her professional life and not from the university.
I wouldn't sweat it. People today are more successful when they have that ability to separate themselves from the university life. And in most cases, that means leaving even old friends behind.
2007-09-01 00:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by Yulik MahBaht 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try joining a sorority and getting involved in greek life. you'll meet friends/sisters for life. also, it provides for future connections in the professional field.
2007-09-01 00:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by Kiersten A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I can relae to what you are saying.
You could probably see a psychiartrist, it dosn't mean your insane. I went to a psychirtrist and he helped me feel more comfortable with myself.
They can make you feel better too.
2007-09-01 00:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek pyschiatric help from the counselor at your school. You have too many issues going on.
2007-09-01 00:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to other peoples dorms and introduce yourself..youll have new friends in no time
2007-09-01 00:55:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋