He went to dropp his 13 year old daugther and friends to the movies. I think his daugther manipulates him alot. He was gone for 2 hours and he just called me to tell me that he is going to have to watch the movie with them because is a pg 13 movie. I think he could of just say sorry you guys have to watch another movie. Now I am alone at home in a friday to tell me what he was going to do. I am very upset should I?
2007-08-31 17:06:47 · 20 answers · asked by Ortega'swife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, you need to compromise, set up expectations and communicate. If either of you have a hard time communicating or listening, you should ask for help. Take it easy because getting mad isn't going to help anybody. Especially you. What is done is done and you can only hope and demand more in the future. The key thing is that you have needs, expectations and wanted to be treated right too.
Good Luck
2007-08-31 17:17:20 · answer #1 · answered by Robert Miller 95670 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So many Dads don't have time for their daughters, I wish my 14 yr old HAD a dad to take her to the movies!!
I know you are hurt, and maybe he could have handled it a little better but you are an adult and shouldn't be trying to make him chose between his daughter and you!
Are you the step-mom? Been there, done that too! Didn't you know he had a daughter? (I didn't, my hubby's showed up at 5 yrs old- what a surprise) Don't you want him to feel good about being a dad? Afterall it is part of him!
Look in another few years she will be embarassed to be with dad and you will have him all to yourself.
What's so bad about being home on a Friday night? Sounds like you aren't past the "partying" stage! Go out with your lady friends, go visit your relatives, volunteer at a hospital, go read at the library or go take a class and develop your own interests.
2007-09-01 00:40:59 · answer #2 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a friend and go out on the town. Make sure you don't come back home until it's very very late.
Leave a note saying. Got bored and lonely so went out with the girls. Don't wait up it's going to be a late one.
This way he can't get upset with you after all you left a note! Your not going to be sitting home getting more and more upset over the situation so there isn't going to be a blow out.
At the same time he will know what it's like to be alone with a moments notice.
2007-09-01 01:03:51 · answer #3 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time they go off for a movie, tell em your going along . Or ask if you can go along for the dropping off of the kids, just in case he has to stay...you can watch too! I think he's being the best dad he can and kids at 13 really need the attention of their parents, Most just think they don't. The whole family bond is soooo important, especially when a 13yr. old will be 15, 16,...soon enough and start backing away from the family unit. Don't be mad, jealous is okay tho. Just change that by being more involved. Watch and see, it'll work!!!!
2007-09-01 00:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by zen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you marry someone with a child you have to learn to share your life with all of him (all of him includes his offspring).
You have every right to be upset but don't harbor the anger to long as it will take you down. Teenagers are great manipulators and you've probably some years ahead of you dealing with his daughter and this issue. Monitor how often this occurs so you can discuss it with him openly and honestly when you feel you've had enough.
2007-09-01 00:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by slave2art 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong her wanting to spend time with her dad?? Most kids in her age wouldn't do anything with their parents anymore because it is not considered to be "cool". I think it is great that they are spending time together. On the other hand, did you make plans? Did he promise to go out for dinner with you? Or anything else? In any case, his daughter will always come first, so better get used to that now than later. Sorry.
2007-09-01 00:12:35 · answer #6 · answered by terliuke 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're jealous of a 13 year old? sheesh! Stop being so possessive and be glad he's spending time with his kid instead of at some strip club with the boys!
2007-09-01 00:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you and your husband need to sit down and talk about things. If something is bothering you about how he acts towards her or you, talk about it and work something out.
Him wanting to spend time with his / your daughter sounds okay to me. Watching a movie with her and her friends, really I see nothing wrong with that.
2007-09-01 00:24:24 · answer #8 · answered by Panda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no......things like that happen. i would think you would be happy hes spending time with his daughter and her friends.. he could be out doing something much worse.. if hes your hubby then you can spend time with him when he gets back.. maybe go to dinner together tomorrow. its great to see a father doing things with there children lots of them dont get too. i know i dont have lots of memories of my father spending time with me.. and the ones i do have was not that good of ones.. let them enjoy tonight and when he gets home be glad they had a good time.. good luck
2007-09-01 00:18:39 · answer #9 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get over it. the kid also has the right to spend some fridays with daddy look we are both bored thats why we are on the internet
2007-09-01 00:19:37 · answer #10 · answered by mickey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋