Is it wrong to fall in love with other ppl when you're still married?

Question

What if you can't help yourself? I never thought it would happen to me, but I'm falling for someone else and I'm married and that person is also married.

Answer 1

You already know the answer to this question - I hope you're not looking for people to ease your guilty conscience because I doubt you'll find that here.
Love isn't a feeling, it's a counscious decision you make every moment of every day. You CHOSE to stop loving your husband, make no mistakes about that. This was your CHOICE. You can very easily CHOOSE to be faithful. I'd recommend counseling. If this man is willing to cheat on his wife and you're willing you cheat on your husband, you both have issues and couldn't possibly have a health, monogomous relationship.
Do the right thing, get counseling with your husband and cut this other guy out of your life. OR at least have the decency to tell your husband you don't love him anymore and divorce him BEFORE you cheat. Cheating is the most selfish thing you can do

Answer 2

Married people should be concentrating on their spouses and their marriages and not out looking for someone else.

You can't help it? Sure you can. No one has a gun to your head. You don't have to put yourself in situations with this man that lead to these type of feelings. You are very responsible for what it going on here; you just don't want to accept that responsibility.

It's one thing to fantasize. Everybody does it to a point, but it is an entirely different matter to make that fantasy a reality...or even consider doing so.

You made a commitment to the man to whom you are marreied. You would be wise to stop looking in other pastures for greener grass and start spending some time in your own yard doing a little fertilizing. (Sorry for the bad analogy, but I think you get the point.)

How would you feel if this man was your husband and this guy's wife found herself "falling" for him? It wouldn't be so pleasant, would it?

It's time to put your hubby first and leave the other other boys alone.

Answer 3

Yes it is wrong and I believe impossible. Some people now-a-days have no clue what love actually is. Think about this for a second.

What is love?
Well it is when you give yourself to someone 100%
You love them for who they are.
You give whatever you can to make your relationship stand the test of time.
It is unconditional and limitless.
It gives, even when you feel like nothing is left.

I am not saying you do not love your husband. I am saying that something is mising from your marriage and I strongly suggest you find out before you mess up what you have. What you are saying is not something that can be taken lightly. I have known a few couples that have been where you are and one of my friends actually left her husband for the other man and the other man left his wife. They got married and cheated on each other with the original spouses. The problem was within them. They made themselves unhappy. The grass is always greener on the otherside until you cross the street. Take it from a woman who knows that no matter what troubles you are having in your relationsip, none of them is worth making a negative name for yourself.

Answer 4

You need to stay away from this person, or risk ruining your marriage. Bottom line. When you married your spouse, you made a commitment. You need to either honor your vows, or be upfront and let your husband know that you're no longer interested in being married. You don't even know if this other person is really who you think they are. You know the whole "grass is greener..." saying, there is some truth to that!
In addition, while it's normal as human beings to feel an attraction to another person, how we act on it is ultimately our own responsibility. The best thing to do is to cut off all contact with this temptation.

Answer 5

the only right and wrong thing is what you DO about it. If you love each other, you will be able to wait for each other while the divorces go through. If it's not that serious, and you have a good spouse, just stay away from that other person and after some time passes, you will be able to voice your feelings to your partner. But I mean if you want to leave em, even if you dont say the reason, at least tell em that your leaving and the marriage is over, dont just sneak around and stuff.

Answer 6

You already know the answer to this but I think you are hoping someone, anyone will tell you its ok, but you know IT IS NOT.

You took a vow with your husband and know you want out cause you found the grass might be greener on the other side.

Well think about the other party (the boyfriend's wife and possible children).

They call them home wreckers, but I truly feel it takes 2 to tango!

If you were a woman of honor, you'll take YOUR husband on a vacation, even for the weekend and re-kindle the love you felt when you said I do.

Now if you have already slept with this other person, boy or boy, you have some explaining to do.

Better get ready for the longest conversation you will ever have.

Answer 7

If you are turning to another person outside of your marriage, you are experiencing symptoms that there are problems inside your marriage. Cheating is only a symptom that problems exist within your marriage. Marriage is a choice. Allowing yourself to spend enough time with another in order to begin to fall in love with that person is also a choice. I suggest you stop spending time with this new love, and start spending more time with your spouse and work on whatever problems that you are both having that is making you turn to someone else instead of your spouse. If you honestly work on your marriage, and still find that you are not happy. Then, and only then should you leave the marriage and start a new life either on your own and with someone else. You both owe your spouses that much. Try saving your marriage first...then you can walk away knowing that you tried your best, and that you handled the situation the right way. It is not possible to ever get close enough to another person in order to fall in love with them, if you are committed, and emotionally connected to your spouse the way you should be.

Answer 8

Ummm.....you should really think this through. The grass is not always greener on the other side. And also, do you love your husband?? I mean, if you are finding yourself falling for someone else, maybe you should see what your lacking from your husband. Maybe you are better off on your own. To me...marriage is sacred. Some people use it as a tool to signify a moment in their life, but really its not genuine to begin with. I have seen many settle and divorce. And I have seen many leave thier spouses to be with someone else, only to be regretful in the end, because they never truly appreciated what they had. Think clearly on this one. I w ish you all the best.

Answer 9

U cant help urself? what a load of b.s. im sorry u put urself in a predicument to fall for this guy.. u had a choice and u chose to persue rather then walk away when u had the chance in the beginning.. is it wrong, ummm yes.. u have 2 families at stake here , dont u have any compassion for anyone other then urself? your a very selfish, immature person.. u need to grow up and realize what real love is, find some respect for yourself, for women, and for marital vows.. geeze .. where are ur parents someone needs to smack them upside the head for not raising a child with common decentcy.

Answer 10

Yes it is wrong, because if you start getting emotionally involved with someone else while your married, is called adultery.

And YES you can help yourself. You let yourself get close to this person, you didn't have to. Stop trying to pass the blame or not taking responsibility for your thoughts and actions.