My husband and I have too many relationship complications for many years, usually, his inappropriate behaviors, cheated, eyeing, and a several online affairs. I'd never had any friends or had done anything that God has forbidden to him. A month ago, I accident met the guy who asked me to married him like 5 years ago on myspace. The guy who I dished and had broken his heart. At first we didn't talk, then several days ago, he emailed and we talked for a bit (friendly type). We met and got some drink after 5 years of not talking or even seeing each other. Today, I decided to tell my husband who is gone for business trip that I met this old friend and we hung out for a bit and I told him that we just friends, nothing wrong happened and will keep the friendship. He said yeah, it's okay. What kind of attitude is that? Why would he say it's okay for me being friend with this guy? I know I'm in his shoes and he is in mine the table is turning, but I would go nuts which I did, but he doesn't?
2007-08-31 16:16:33 · 17 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Correction-I didn't meet him on myspace. We stumbled to each other profile on myspace
2007-08-31 16:21:43 · update #1
I'm sorry to add some more. What my husband said was that he trusts me
2007-08-31 16:23:18 · update #2
If you keep looking and expecting a specific reaction from people, you will keep being disappointed.
Grow up and act like an adult. Then dump your hubby, and find a man who will treat you like the beautiful woman that you can be.
2007-08-31 16:23:36 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband knows guys he is one! So you by a girl a drink maybe I could sleep with her too let me buy her more drinks that's every guy everywhere I don't care what they say. Just the way you telling the story you seem like your hiding something its seem like you weren't faithful to your husband. Any woman that wants to go out and drinks with guys is doing stuff with one of the guys there! Come on now you can really tell your self you never even kissed another guy while you were drunk I find that to be BS.As for your husband its wrong that he's doing that as well but guys are dogs to even look at a pretty girl gets us happy let alone sleeping with one. Its in a mans nature to want more and it should be in a womens nature to give more.
2016-05-18 03:24:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's either having an affair and is looking at this as a way to fel less guilty about it OR he just feels like he can't say anything because of his past behavior.
Seriously, why are you with a man who continually disrespects you? Send him packing and find someone who will love you.
2007-08-31 16:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why would anyone want to live their life in a constant state of "i wonder what he or she is doing right now"? he says he trusts you because he can or he chooses not to live a life of thoughts of betrayal that eventually consume you. recognize the demons in your life and dont ignore them, seek them to remove them forever. you have no business in a relationship if you cant give yourself totally, this is also why my question still goes with no best answer, i'm now damaged and wont be completely open for the next relationship to ever even get off the ground.....everlasting sleep .......so peaceful
2007-08-31 16:39:54 · answer #4 · answered by twysted469 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be your husband has total trust in you.
You on the other hand are playing with fire.
You say you are christian, then you all so belief in the devil.
This is the devils playpen your in.
This will lead to the bedroom I've been there , done it. Please say goodbye to the old love. Think of all the reasons you didn't want him in the first place.
God bless.
2007-08-31 16:33:24 · answer #5 · answered by luvspace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you're in a good sitaution. Your husband trusts you, despite his knowled of how easy it is to cheet. Until you learn more (or something to prove this wrong) I'd relax. Perhaps he is showing you the freedom of relationships that he hopes you would show him. It is good to have friends outside a marriage. It lessens the strain.
2007-08-31 16:29:28 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably not concerned because he has a history of finding new friends himself and may have a few on the side. Some guys are comfortable with who they are and could care less who their wives have as friends. I know I don't tell my wife she can't have a male friend and she doesn't tell me I can't have female friends.
2007-08-31 16:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by M M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's about time your friend get a piece of well deserved AZZ. If I was your hubby, I won't give a damn - If you like now what you rejected then --- You are a low class human being and there is nothing anyone can do about it --- even Jesus himself.
2007-08-31 16:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by MC Kwek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so you're husband cheated on you and he doesn't care if you date/hang out with other men. sounds like a nice loving relationship to me. i bet you guys will get divorced in 2 yrs or so. but hey look at it this way, at least you will have a guy that really likes you. that is cool.
2007-08-31 16:26:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he says that because he knows he has "friends" of his own, and whats good for the goose is good for the gander, if you know what I mean. He can't condemn you for doing the same thing he does. Sounds like trouble to me, but then again, sometimes, you start to think, if he does it, why can't I? Marriage is tough......sorry he has not been faithful.
2007-08-31 16:27:20 · answer #10 · answered by Penny P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋