My best friend is being abuse by her bf.Today when my mom droped us up for school when we got out of the car I saw that she wasn't walking right. I was like what happended to your feet she reply with nothing we been best friends since 4th grade so I know her.I said I know something is wrong she told me her boyfriend told her to do something she said no and he hit her. I asked her what but she wouldn't tell me.I am guessing her bf is abusing her for sex .. So I want him to stay away from her. So I told my bf when he comes to school on monday to kick the **** out of that guy.My bf is more crazier than that bastard he brings knifes to school ..I don't wanna see my best friend getting hurt. She would make any guy run with a snap of a finger and she is with that rude @sshole. He is rude and makes me sick he is an emo wanna be. My bf will totally **** him up. He will stay away from her.I will hook her up with a guy who will respect her.What should I do to protect her.
2007-08-31 16:16:19 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She is not willing to leave him because she says she loves him,. am like Shut Up he hits you to love him .My bf is crazy but not crazy enough to put his hands on me then that day both of us are going to hell or atleast me because I will hit him back.I can't belive she is letting him do this. I hate that guy....I can't wait til tuesday since their is no school on monday.Tuesday hurry up
2007-08-31 16:16:47 · update #1
First let me tell you something.
You're a very good girl with responsibilities.
You care your friends as you care for yourself
You care to the extend of hurting you own self.
You're a real friend of everybody.
There's a few on this earth like you. maybe one in a thousand.
My advice,
The suspicious been abusing your best friend for "SEX" is every serious case. Hitting your best friend by her BF is also a serious case. There's two cases that you have suspected happen to your best friend. This is criminal. Crime been committed by your best friend hooligan boy friend. This is called "JUVENILE CASE". SUITED TO YOUNG PEOPLE.
With the kind of responsibility and kind hearted, I advice you to save your best friend from this hooligan as said as her BF. Your deeds in saving your best friend or maybe saving her life is an honour. Maybe a great honour.
Methods and ways.
1. Meet your best friend mother alone. Tell her the real situation.
2. Meet your own school disciplinary Master alone and tell the real situation happen to your best friend.
Speak over the phone if you feel and find or face lots of difficulties in meeting them. Her mother and the discipline Master of your school or anybody in authority to deal with this kind if incident and they knows best to solve the problems.
The faster you act the more chances of your best friend been less, lighten or getting off from been abused by her BF.
2007-08-31 16:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by AHMAD FUAD Harun 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
considering the age, there are laws that would protect her if she is indeed being abused. Her boyfriend could end up in juvie or jail if reported and there was enough evidence. have you talked to your school counselor? they are obligated to report abuse if there is any reason to believe it is going on. Sadly at 14 your friend has little concept of love if she thinks she loves him. Other questions to ask would be has she been abused before, if so this is often a pattern an abused person can fall into without help. The best thing you could do for her is to report what you know to someone in aurthority. She needs help if this is the case, and if her parents are not doing anything, they could be found neglectful as well, as it is their job to protect her.
2007-08-31 23:24:13 · answer #2 · answered by julvrug 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to solve this by yourself. Seriously, having your boyfriend mess him up is just going to cause more problems for all of you. Not to mention it's a ridiculous way to handle this problem. If he's hitting her, tell your parents. There's a good chance they'll call hers. And that's what her parents are THERE for-- to take care of her. Even if you're best friends, you're a child. You can't solve anything unless you tell an adult. That's the only way to protect her. If you don't want to tell your parents, then try a teacher since they're required by law to report any abuse.
2007-08-31 23:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sure don't live in the same world as me.You all sound like you need help.What with the boyfriend thing at 14?You haven't even begun to live and you run a real risk of throwing it away.Whats with the gutter talk and the threats of violence?Talk to an adult and leave your crazy boyfriend out of this or someone will get really hurt or worse
2007-08-31 23:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by Charlotte's Dad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want your friend dead you better speak now. You said that you know her since you were in 4th grade so you have to feel some love for her. Don't allow anyone to do that to your friend. What kind of a friend are you? You don't want to get involve??? Do you rather see her hurt or what is worst dead??? Tell her mother. If that was my daughter I will like to know! How do you think people is going to look at you if anything happens to her and you could it done something???
If that was your sister, wouldn't you want to know??
Man who hit women are cowards. They never NEVER change and they don't deserve a chance. Don't protect that animal.... protect your friend.
2007-08-31 23:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by Belle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off calm down. Never enter a battle through anger. It requires thought and patients. Next step back and look at the situation. What is missing in this picture.
I know there is room for God here somewhere although from your speech and descriptions I would say He was left out.
For instance if God were involved perhaps young people wouldn't be so sinful.
As long as you guys continue to ignore Jesus and live n this sinful lifestyle you can expect sinful stuff to happen to you. Get right with Jesus and you or she will not be putting yourself in dangerous paths.
2007-08-31 23:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well how about dropping the boyfriend and work on school work. You all seem too immature to handle dating.
Bringing knives to school makes him such a big man does it? Your boyfriend must be a bigger jerk than the other you accuse if you think carrying weapons makes him tough.
What if things went wrong and someone got seriously hurt or killed would that make him so tough to be done for manslaughter? He'd be wetting his pants.
Forget dating and wait until all of you grow up and stop acting like trash, their are more important things to do with your life than this crap.
2007-08-31 23:23:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are a good friend. You should report him to school authorities and her parents. You shouldn't try to take matters into your own hands and get you or your bf in trouble. Ultimately she may cover up for him, though. She needs psychological help so she can overcome allowing abusive behavior. Good luck!
2007-08-31 23:22:39 · answer #8 · answered by Thinkaboutit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to involve ADULTS in this, not other kids - kids cannot actually do anything long lasting and evil enough to this punk without getting themselves in just as much trouble. I realize you want more than anything to get even with the punk, but you all could wind up more hurt than him.
Talk to your friends MOTHER, or better yet her FATHER - she will get mad at you for it, but hey - someones gotta look out for her because she is not thinking straight at all. If all else fails, contact her school counselor or the police.
2007-08-31 23:23:56 · answer #9 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, sounds like you and your friend both need to get some help and find better boy friends. Your guy might not abuse you yet, but if he's a scrapper and bringing knives to school it's probably just a matter of time.
2007-08-31 23:20:26 · answer #10 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋