Why is that when you try to do the right thing it comes back to bite you in the butt?

Question

Here's the short version. I have a very spoiled 14 year old niece. She has been posting some very disturbing things on her myspace page. I tried talking to her and she said she was just being "scene." I continued to be concerned and it came to a point where I brought her page to my brother's attention. His wife had my niece block me because apparently, according to her, I need a life. I am hurt that my brother didn't stand up for me, even though they didn't like the things she was posting either. They made her take it all down and told her she had to show it to them whenever they requested to see it. Also, I was not the only person to approach them about her myspace page. When did it become a bad thing to care about someone?? How would you feel?

Answer 1

I would feel the same way.
Yeah.. when I try to do something right, it bites Me in the butt too! =(
If I were you, I would've felt hurt also.. if my brother didn't do anything, or stand up for me..

His wife doesn't understand. Why did she even think that you need a 'Life'? Sorry, But I would feel agitated, and thinking about it right now is making me feel that way. That's just plain bullsh*t.
And about your 14 year old niece.. It was a good and nice thing that you tried to do... you tried to confront her about it and talk to her. You did the right thing, but unfortunately it bit you in the behind. =/
There is also no such thing as being 'scene' either.
It's a made up thing that kids these days try to be..
'Emo', 'Scene' and other nonsense like that.

WHAT IS WRONG WITH THE WORLD?? D;

.. But yeah..
I'm sorry that, that happened.
She shouldnt have made her block you.
Your brother should have stuck up for you.
And you Have a good reason why you felt hurt..

When did it become a bad thing to care about someone you ask?
When they made up 'Emo' and etc. o.o;

Answer 2

It is said that the road to Hell is paved with good intentions. What you were trying to do was very noble. You are letting what happened after you tried to help overshadow the importance of your intentions.
You can sleep at night with a clear conscious now because you actually tried to make a difference.
The problem is really out your hands now.
I am sympathetic to your feelings. I have a teenage daughter and she makes me worry quite a bit.
Your niece's parents do have the final word on it.
Their actions are saying this,
"She's not your daughter so mind your own business".
That is pretty rude of them and I would distance myself from them because they do not value your opinion. Don't stop trying to help people just because this happened.
You can find a way to help without taking it too far.
If you met a person living on the street and starving and they asked you for money for food, would you give them money for a meal or would you give them a bowl of soup.
There is a fine line you have to walk when you want to help people.
It's a beautiful quality within your soul that you have to want to try to make a difference. I don't know how to explain it any way other than by telling you about an experience I had.
A few years ago I met a man in a supermarket parking lot. He asked me if I could help him. I replied that I really didn't know. He went on to tell me how was stranded and hadn't eaten in a couple of days and he really just needed ten bucks to get a cheap burger and a little bit of gas. It was a good line, I gave him twenty. Not three hours later I saw him walking out of a liquor store with a bottle under his right arm and a pouch of rolling tobacco in left hand. He proceeded directly to a railroad overpass and got rip-roaring drunk. The very next day I saw the same guy panhandling in a different parking lot. He used the same scam on another guy. I saw the guy reaching for his wallet and I stopped him from giving the guy the money. The bum looked at me as if he wanted to strangle me. The guy he was scamming asked me if I knew him.
I told him, "No but he ran that same line on me yesterday".
Now when people give me a line like that I offer to take them to a burger joint and a gas station with my emergency gas can and take the gas to their car. They back right off.
Here's an idea, the next time your niece's parents ask you for something, like a favor, tell them you can't and walk away.

Answer 3

Even though it made some people angry at you, it was the right thing to do.

If it was as you said, disturbing, you may have saved her parents from a lot of grief in the future. Don't go around flaunting that thought, keep it to yourself and rest secure in the knowledge that you DID the right thing!

Jade, here is your quote for the day: "Doing what's right is not always popular. Doing what's popular is not always right."

Answer 4

They might feel embarrassed or even jealous that you had to point out something that they should have been aware of!
Its a bit like ''shoot the messenger'' syndrome
No one likes to see / believe bad things about someone they love.....so they got angry at you instead of her
Stand your ground , don't give in , you did do the right thing and hopefully they will respect you for that and even be grateful one day (as they should be!)
They should be THANKING you for letting them know.....its not you who's let them down!!!!

Answer 5

i could see why you would be hurt when someone else just disregards & disrespects you like that. especially when you look at it & say you were doing the right thing. my first thought was that any mom who would give her daughter that kind of an example, to just rebel & disregard doing the right thing has some issues of her own. people are funny, you can really only control, & be responsible for yourself, as far as your bro not standing up for you, thats what i mean people are funny, so who really knows.

Answer 6

I would be upset as you are. I can't understand parents like this. If they do not get control of her now they will probably regret it later. Does she know the dangers in My Space and other sites? I sure hope for the best for you and your niece.